Unutterably Silly So what are you doing RIGHT NOW?

[nomesque]

Originally Posted by recluse

See? That's why I like you! You know me so well!

It is easier to find someone to laugh with than it is a shoulder to cry on.
But when I'm really down in the dark, I stop clowning for my sanity's sake.
And I tend to think darker than most. Being that way is worse than being a clown when it comes to getting to know people.

Funny is easier to react to - ppl KNOW what reaction is required. Sad is harder. Do you go for the 'cry when you're crying' approach, or the 'cheer em up' approach, or the 'tell em how much worse things could be', or just tell them to get the hell over it? (cos THAT helps). My theory? We humans naturally empathise, so we feel similar to the other person - and most of us react badly to sadness in ourselves. Hence, we try to 'fix' it in the other person ASAP, with whatever methodology we use on ourselves when sad and needing to get over it fast.

(oh yeah, I philosophise too easily... )

Originally Posted by recluse

What's up in Oz? Time for the "Annual Aussie Hose Down"?

Sounds like fun! Although it's the middle of winter here, and ya can't hose ppl down when the temperature's down around 17 celcius, it's inhumane!!!

[SneakySnake]

nyer nyer nyer I am all clean! Hair still wet and dark blue kitty pyjamas on.

I did probably stink a bit because I did not shower after yoga today, but that's all fixed now. I read my book until 4.45pm then layed in the bath reading a very exciting CPA magazine, and now I get out all clean to find you thinking I stink!

[recluse]

That makes sense.
I've spent too many years keeping things to myself and they kinda became one big bad feeling that picked up all the new little bad things and got out of control for a long time.
I finally figured out, all on my lonesome, that if I vented the venom/ bad feeling, no matter what reaction I got, it helped shrink the big bad feeling.
The problem remains that what I vent is so tangled up and deeply rooted that I can rarely vocalize it in a clear manner. I just sound really crazy. Scare people crazy.
But just being able to finally tell someone really helps. You, Kindlekitten and Marc are the only people I can say these things to and not get that "Ignore him" vibe.

[SneakySnake]

I love you recluse. Sometimes the piss off cup gets really full(you can only hold so much) and we need a way to drain some out before it overflows. Unfortunately (in my case) the draining of this piss off cup does not make sense to many others. I am guessing we all feel a bit like that sometimes.

I hope you can feel the hugglyvibes I am sending.

[recluse]

I love you, too, you little stinker.

Even your huggyvibes could use a good scrub and some baby powder.

*BIG HUG*

[montsnmags]

Originally Posted by recluse

Just finished enjoying a lovely dinner of eggplant bake.

Mmm, sounds delish (I looked up the recipe in the recipes thread). TL1 makes a moussaka (no meat) and a variety of eggplant parmigiana that are two of my favourite dishes. I love eggplant.

Speaking of parmigiana, he's currently making a mushroom risotto, and we bought a nice block of Parmigiano-Reggiano today. That cheese I could just sit and eat a big block of by itself...my favourite cheese. I just had a nice bite of it, just by itself. Mmmmm.

Cheers,
Marc

[SneakySnake]

Originally Posted by recluse

I love you, too, you little stinker.

Even your huggyvibes could use a good scrub and some baby powder.

*BIG HUG*

I used all the baby powder on Mr M's fur. I will send you another lot of hugglyvibes with a squirt of this....

[afa]

Right now? I'm at my desk in the office, pretending to work...

[nomesque]

Originally Posted by recluse

That makes sense.
I've spent too many years keeping things to myself and they kinda became one big bad feeling that picked up all the new little bad things and got out of control for a long time.
I finally figured out, all on my lonesome, that if I vented the venom/ bad feeling, no matter what reaction I got, it helped shrink the big bad feeling.
The problem remains that what I vent is so tangled up and deeply rooted that I can rarely vocalize it in a clear manner. I just sound really crazy. Scare people crazy.
But just being able to finally tell someone really helps. You, Kindlekitten and Marc are the only people I can say these things to and not get that "Ignore him" vibe.

Uh huh. Charting internal territory and talking stuff through takes time (I'm a master at talking ABOUT talking about stuff... ). Sometimes the map says 'Here be dragons' for years...

(there's no dragon smilies!!!)

I vent frequently at work, but I still think we need a boxing bag and a yoga teacher. Box, stretch, meditate, work, box, stretch, meditate.

Marc, my love, mention one more thing about your dinner and I'll be heading for Noosa post-haste to beg for leftovers....

afa, sounds like some of my days!

[montsnmags]

Originally Posted by nomesque

...
Marc, my love, mention one more thing about your dinner and I'll be heading for Noosa post-haste to beg for leftovers....
...

For dessert, I had a slab of the locally made Lief Chocolate (the "three kinds" one...made by a couple of guys we know, live up in the hills behind Eumundi. High quality, lovely stuff, them and the chocolate ).

There's none left but.

Cheers,
Marc

[pshrynk]

Originally Posted by afa

Right now? I'm at my desk in the office, pretending to work...

Typical day in the Llounge, that.

[yvanleterrible]

Originally Posted by recluse

That makes sense.
I've spent too many years keeping things to myself and they kinda became one big bad feeling that picked up all the new little bad things and got out of control for a long time.
I finally figured out, all on my lonesome, that if I vented the venom/ bad feeling, no matter what reaction I got, it helped shrink the big bad feeling.
The problem remains that what I vent is so tangled up and deeply rooted that I can rarely vocalize it in a clear manner. I just sound really crazy. Scare people crazy.
But just being able to finally tell someone really helps. You, Kindlekitten and Marc are the only people I can say these things to and not get that "Ignore him" vibe.

I like that description, recluse. It explains why I spend so much time here too.
MR has a way of dissipating problems temporarily.

[ShortNCuddlyAm]

Originally Posted by nomesque

Sad is harder. Do you go for the 'cry when you're crying' approach, or the 'cheer em up' approach, or the 'tell em how much worse things could be', or just tell them to get the hell over it?

I try not to do the Pollyanna approach (aka things could be worse/other people have it worse than you) as I don't want to be smacked in the gob; which is my reaction when people do that to me.

Originally Posted by recluse

I finally figured out, all on my lonesome, that if I vented the venom/ bad feeling, no matter what reaction I got, it helped shrink the big bad feeling.
The problem remains that what I vent is so tangled up and deeply rooted that I can rarely vocalize it in a clear manner. I just sound really crazy. Scare people crazy.

If there's no-one around to vent at, I find writing things down and/or drawing the issues helps. Often, it helps more than venting to/at someone. Mostly because I don't do the "opening up to others" thing very well. At all.

Originally Posted by montsnmags

For dessert, I had a slab of the locally made Lief Chocolate (the "three kinds" one...made by a couple of guys we know, live up in the hills behind Eumundi. High quality, lovely stuff, them and the chocolate ).

I'm on my way over

There's none left but.

Cheers,
Marc

But there'll be more when we all arrive?

Originally Posted by yvanleterrible

I like that description, recluse. It explains why I spend so much time here too.
MR has a way of dissipating problems temporarily.

[Wetdogeared]

Originally Posted by montsnmags

Speaking of parmigiana, he's currently making a mushroom risotto, and we bought a nice block of Parmigiano-Reggiano today. That cheese I could just sit and eat a big block of by itself...my favourite cheese. I just had a nice bite of it, just by itself. Mmmmm.

Cheers,
Marc

Mm-mm, Parmigiano-Reggiano. Nothing compares to it in Alfredo sauce, risotto, chicken/eggplant/anything Parmigiana, Caesar salad.... or just by itself. It is very pricey here. We can buy a large wedge at our local Costco (member wholesale club).

Mm-mm, mushroom risotto. I picked up some fresh wild morels at the farmers' market this week and have been wondering what to do with them other than the classic omelette.

Good eats, WDE

[kindlekitten]

Originally Posted by recluse

That makes sense.
I've spent too many years keeping things to myself and they kinda became one big bad feeling that picked up all the new little bad things and got out of control for a long time.
I finally figured out, all on my lonesome, that if I vented the venom/ bad feeling, no matter what reaction I got, it helped shrink the big bad feeling.
The problem remains that what I vent is so tangled up and deeply rooted that I can rarely vocalize it in a clear manner. I just sound really crazy. Scare people crazy.
But just being able to finally tell someone really helps. You, Kindlekitten and Marc are the only people I can say these things to and not get that "Ignore him" vibe.

ahhh hugs big guy!!!! I suspect a lot of us come to rely on places like this to work through some of the same old things that we have been saying to the same old people for way too long and not getting any effective feedback