Seriously thoughtful Let's be civil, please

[Donnageddon]

Originally Posted by Katti's Cat

And I may have reacted a bit harshly - so I apologise as well. Now that we are good, lets have a beer and move on , shall we

Did you say Beer!

I accept your terms, friend.

[SimonSays]

Originally Posted by Donnageddon

Unless you are a masochist... Then, maybe not so much.

And what is wrong with being a masochist?

[Donnageddon]

Beats me?

I apologize again.

[Katti's Cat]

Originally Posted by Donnageddon

Beats me?

Originally Posted by Donnageddon

I apologize again.

No need to - you did it once and can move on (don't let the beer get warm).

[SimonSays]

Originally Posted by Katti's Cat

That was rather funny..lol

[ardeegee]

Originally Posted by WT Sharpe

Which is found in some form in most of our modern religions, and even many secular philosophies. (See? Even this thread just became a discussion of religion!)

And in my opinion, it's a great rule for everyone to follow.

http://www.religioustolerance.org/reciproc2.htm

The flaw in the rule being, of course, the assumption that others want the same things that you do.

[Donnageddon]

Originally Posted by ardeegee

http://www.religioustolerance.org/reciproc2.htm

The flaw in the rule being, of course, the assumption that others want the same things that you do.

Killjoy!

[Sparrow]

Originally Posted by ardeegee

http://www.religioustolerance.org/reciproc2.htm

The flaw in the rule being, of course, the assumption that others want the same things that you do.

And also which groups are included under 'others' and which groups aren't - opinions vary.

Sparrows should definitely be in there.

[GraceKrispy]

I missed a heck of a lot of conversation whilst I was sleeping and working and watching a movie (Date Night- very funny). But I wanted to pipe in with this comment :

Originally Posted by WT Sharpe

That anonymity thing is one reason why I like to use my real name.

I use my real name too! Me me !!

Well, part of it. Iʻll leave it to you to guess which part.

[kennyc]

Originally Posted by GraceKrispy

.....
I use my real name too! Me me !!

Well, part of it. Iʻll leave it to you to guess which part.

Hey Krisp! Me too!

One Art forum I belong to recently required everyone to re-register using real names. (of course they still could be made up if you did it carefully).

I do believe aliases, madeup screen names etc. Tend to bring out the worst in people sometimes.

Like the voice in the crowd yelling "Burn the witch!"

etc. etc. etc.

[FlorenceArt]

Originally Posted by kennyc

I do believe aliases, madeup screen names etc. Tend to bring out the worst in people sometimes.

Hmm, I don't know. I have always used my real name (or at least first name), and it hasn't stopped me from saying stupid or hurtful things at times

I understand that people can get angry when reading a post. This has happened to me and will doubtless happen again. I have learned to wait before I answer in anger - I would like to say that I always follow this rule but I don't, and I always, always regret it when I don't. But I like to think I have gotten better at this with experience.

What I'm driving at is, this is something you learn to do over time. I suppose it's easier for some people, harder for others. But avoiding any "dangerous" subject is not the way to educate people to behave in a more civilized manner. Because everyone will run into one of these posts that pushes their personal buttons, sooner or later. It's part of the learning experience on the web to learn to deal with it.

And of course, different things annoy different people. I have seen several posts referring to the Lounge as a place people get aggressive. Me, I come here when I get too annoyed at the discussions in the General discussion forum. To me, the lounge is a much more friendly and fun place, where I turn to when things go ugly elsewhere. And at least the subjects people get heated about here are, IMO, worth getting heated about. I'd much rather exchange passionate opinions about global warming, geopolitics and health care than about copyright and Apple. Though to be honest I usually stay away from all of those, because I know I will end up feeling angry at some of the comments sooner or later.

Anyway, I'd just like to say that I don't think it would be practical or desirable to ban subjects, and even less to delete threads or posts. I have seen this done in another forum, and it only breeds paranoïa when all you know is that some threads have disappeared, without knowing why, how many or what was in them.

All forums go through these crises from time to time, and I'm sure our great team will find the right balance between censorship (a dangerous tool but unfortunately necessary sometimes) and freedom of speech. Whatever you decide, I'd like to thank you all for taking that burden and making MR such a great place

[kennyc]

Originally Posted by FlorenceArt

Hmm, I don't know. I have always used my real name (or at least first name), and it hasn't stopped me from saying stupid or hurtful things at times
...

Me either Florence.

But I do think using an alias increases the likely hood.

[ShortNCuddlyAm]

Originally Posted by GraceKrispy

I missed a heck of a lot of conversation whilst I was sleeping and working and watching a movie (Date Night- very funny). But I wanted to pipe in with this comment :



I use my real name too! Me me !!

Well, part of it. Iʻll leave it to you to guess which part.

I always knew you were called Krispy!!

Part of my name here is part of my real name. On at least one other forum I use a completely made up name (it's the norm for that forum - and because of the nature of that forum, most people are well mannered)

I don't use my full real name on forums for a variety of reasons, including limiting what a prospective employer can find out about me with a quick search

[WT Sharpe]

Originally Posted by Donnageddon

I was not offended Kitti's Cat, I was shamed. And I wasn't demonstrating anything but a juvenile humor.

Again my apologies.

Originally Posted by Katti's Cat

And I may have reacted a bit harshly - so I apologise as well. Now that we are good, lets have a beer and move on , shall we

See folks? That's how adults do it! Congrats on resolving things before they got out of hand, and Karma to you both!

Originally Posted by SimonSays

And what is wrong with being a masochist?

Whatever floats your boat, I say. I just don't want to be flogged by one who's following the Golden Rule!

[dsvick]

Now that we have all agreed that every one should just get along. I think poohbear invited us all over for drinks last weekend, we should see if the offer is still open...