Who pays after the first date if both make about the same money? - Page 7

RickyMaveety · 06-12-2009, 01:09 PM

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Originally Posted by Sweetpea

Hm, I saw that title and, it being friday, my mind started working...

Do you always ask on your first date what he or she earns a month?

No, and if someone asked me that, I would likely just get up and leave. I would probably ask them (if I didn't already know) what they did for a living (or if they were retired, what they used to do for a living), but that would mostly just be to find out more about them for conversational purposes.

Around here, people are forever trying to set me up on dates. Most of the time it's with someone who is worth a bazillion dollars, but has less than zero personality. I'll take a good personality over money any time hands down.

More important to me is what they do for fun. If they are big on hunting, then I don't see a huge future in the relationship. If they love cats, reading, computers, animated films, building models, and carpentry .... then at least we've got a few things in common.

Amalthia · 06-12-2009, 03:24 PM

One person could pay for the dinner and the other gets the movie? I think it really depends on who you're with. On the first date I completely expected the guy to pay but after dating awhile I'd pay or we'd split the bill or one of us would pay for the dinner the other would pay for the movie.

I married my husband because well he fed me a lot. But our courtship wasn't exactly traditional since he lived in Beligum and I was in the US for most of it.

Sweetpea · 06-12-2009, 04:16 PM

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Originally Posted by yvanleterrible

I know, I've already answered that one.
After some thought I noticed that your question is a subject that a guy would not be worried by. Why is it important for you? Is this a reason why many women want dates in expensive restaurants? But why, to prepare for a long relationship?
Just curious.

No idea... (see below)

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Originally Posted by Amalthia

I married my husband because well he fed me a lot. But our courtship wasn't exactly traditional since he lived in Beligum and I was in the US for most of it.

I married my husband because we liked each other and we connected... I met him on camp at the start of our university career (which neither of us finished, but that's beside the point...) We never really "dated", neither of use really cares about eating out. And if we do (especially when we were just students), we go to usually cheaper restaurants. The only time we went to a really expensive restaurant was in Sankt Moritz, during our honeymoon...

We "dated" outside, at night, with a telescope beside us

yvanleterrible · 06-12-2009, 06:50 PM

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Originally Posted by RickyMaveety

No, and if someone asked me that, I would likely just get up and leave. I would probably ask them (if I didn't already know) what they did for a living (or if they were retired, what they used to do for a living), but that would mostly just be to find out more about them for conversational purposes.

Around here, people are forever trying to set me up on dates. Most of the time it's with someone who is worth a bazillion dollars, but has less than zero personality. I'll take a good personality over money any time hands down.

More important to me is what they do for fun. If they are big on hunting, then I don't see a huge future in the relationship. If they love cats, reading, computers, animated films, building models, and carpentry .... then at least we've got a few things in common.

I feel the same way Ricky.

When my wife and I met, we were students, the only thing that mattered to us was each other. If I had to do it over again, I would still go with romance first... but I'd be much more serious.

Verencat · 06-12-2009, 07:28 PM

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Originally Posted by yvanleterrible

I feel the same way Ricky.

When my wife and I met, we were students, the only thing that mattered to us was each other. If I had to do it over again, I would still go with romance first... but I'd be much more serious.

You're so cute! Can I show this to mom?

Amalthia · 06-12-2009, 07:32 PM

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Originally Posted by Sweetpea

No idea... (see below)

I married my husband because we liked each other and we connected... I met him on camp at the start of our university career (which neither of us finished, but that's beside the point...) We never really "dated", neither of use really cares about eating out. And if we do (especially when we were just students), we go to usually cheaper restaurants. The only time we went to a really expensive restaurant was in Sankt Moritz, during our honeymoon...

We "dated" outside, at night, with a telescope beside us

sounds romantic.

I also love star gazing.

I think what made my dating my husband before we married kind of odd is that we only ever got to meet in short bursts of time so we were cramming all this stuff into one or two months. So I ate a lot of pastries, ice cream, and french fries when I visited him in Belgium. (to be fair one of my favorite topics is food and I probably would have ate just as much without him there) I think he just liked watching me eat...he said he never seen someone look so happy eating ice cream or pastries. (and dude if anyone has had Beligum ice cream they'd be totally happy too!)

Mostly we went on bike riding trips and did low key kinds of things and spent a lot of time together.

FizzyWater · 06-12-2009, 07:41 PM

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Originally Posted by Amalthia

I married my husband because well he fed me a lot. But our courtship wasn't exactly traditional since he lived in Beligum and I was in the US for most of it.

Fed-Ex?

Harry & David?

Really, really long chopsticks?

How did he feed you from across the pond?!

yvanleterrible · 06-12-2009, 11:23 PM

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Originally Posted by Verencat

You're so cute! Can I show this to mom?

Absolutely not!

She'll use it as leverage to control me more...

Greg Anos · 06-12-2009, 11:30 PM

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Originally Posted by yvanleterrible

Absolutely not!

She'll use it as leverage to control me more...

Gee, a family tiff. It's so cute...at 4000 KM away....

(Remember the revised Boomer Motto - Don't trust anyone under 30...)

(And happy 2000th post for me!)

yvanleterrible · 06-12-2009, 11:37 PM

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Originally Posted by Ralph Sir Edward

Gee, a family tiff. It's so cute...at 4000 KM away....

(Remember the revised Boomer Motto - Don't trust anyone under 30...)

(And happy 2000th post for me!)

You're bloody right on that buddy!

GeoffC · 06-13-2009, 08:49 AM

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Originally Posted by Amalthia

I married my husband because well he fed me a lot. But our courtship wasn't exactly traditional since he lived in Beligum and I was in the US for most of it.

obviously using one of the montnmag's universal food pumps designed for the long distance supply of armies on the march....

GeoffC · 06-13-2009, 08:50 AM

or as we've discovered elsewhere, Belgium could be part of the US - that would make some sense...

Sparrow · 06-13-2009, 10:06 AM

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Originally Posted by GeoffC

obviously using one of the montnmag's universal food pumps designed for the long distance supply of armies on the march....

Excellent!

HarryT · 06-13-2009, 10:09 AM

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Originally Posted by GeoffC

or as we've discovered elsewhere, Belgium could be part of the US - that would make some sense...

I'm not at all sure that Belgium actually exists. What sort of a "real" country has a fictional character as its most famous citizen?

GeoffC · 06-13-2009, 10:32 AM

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Originally Posted by HarryT

I'm not at all sure that Belgium actually exists. What sort of a "real" country has a fictional character as its most famous citizen?

:chortle:

:runsandhides:

View Poll Results: Who pays after the first date if both make about the same money?
The man pays for all dates.	19	22.89%
Whoever asks for the date pays.	37	44.58%
The man and woman split the tab evenly.	19	22.89%
The woman pays less than half the bill (such as paying for the tip).	6	7.23%
The woman pays for all dates.	2	2.41%
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GeoffC Chocolate Grasshopper ... Posts: 27,599 Karma: 20821184 Join Date: Mar 2008 Location: Scotland Device: Muse HD , Cybook Gen3 , Pocketbook 302 (Black) , Nexus 10: wife has PW	or as we've discovered elsewhere, Belgium could be part of the US - that would make some sense...