Silliness So what are you doing RIGHT NOW? - Page 244

RWood · 03-14-2009, 12:31 AM

Sorry, wrong planet

GeoffC · 03-14-2009, 12:04 PM

Who moved the universe?

Wetdogeared · 03-14-2009, 12:05 PM

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Originally Posted by GeoffC

Who moved the universe?

I'm sorry, have I been walking in my sleep again?

pshrynk · 03-17-2009, 06:44 PM

I'm sitting at home, feeling bummed beyond all words. My brother was diagnosed with cancer laswt year and got radiation and chemo. He just called me and it's back. And there is very little hope that he will be with us this Christmas. I have no idea how to cope with this.

ShortNCuddlyAm · 03-17-2009, 06:49 PM

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Originally Posted by pshrynk

I'm sitting at home, feeling bummed beyond all words. My brother was diagnosed with cancer laswt year and got radiation and chemo. He just called me and it's back. And there is very little hope that he will be with us this Christmas. I have no idea how to cope with this.

So sorry to hear that. Take it one day at a time and try not to beat yourself for being human. Carp advice, I know

badgoodDeb · 03-17-2009, 06:52 PM

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Originally Posted by pshrynk

I'm sitting at home, feeling bummed beyond all words. My brother was diagnosed with cancer last year and got radiation and chemo. He just called me and it's back. And there is very little hope that he will be with us this Christmas. I have no idea how to cope with this.

Spend as much time as possible with him, in person or on the phone.

Other than that -- well, you're the one we go to for advice. All I can lend is a shoulder to lean (or cry) on. My Dad died early in 1997. At least my faith gives me hope for the future, and for meeting him again. I highly recommend that!

So sorry to hear about this. Sending prayers.....

Patricia · 03-17-2009, 06:57 PM

I'm so sorry pshrynk. I'm sure that you will find a way to cope, but give yourself some time. Am's right when she says to take things one day at a time. After a while you can begin to tolerate more than you ever thought possible.
Meanwhile, I think that you have every reason to feel low.

Madam Broshkina · 03-17-2009, 07:06 PM

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desertgrandma · 03-17-2009, 07:35 PM

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Originally Posted by pshrynk

I'm sitting at home, feeling bummed beyond all words. My brother was diagnosed with cancer laswt year and got radiation and chemo. He just called me and it's back. And there is very little hope that he will be with us this Christmas. I have no idea how to cope with this.

Oh damn and double damn. I know what you are going thru.

I do not know what type, or where in your brother the cancer is, and I know as a doctor you know way much more than I, but my husband has beat it three times......including twice w/lung cancer.

I just knew he was a dead man walking when they told us that had come back. But he's still here, and I'm thankful for that.

No one "knows how to cope" when this happens.

You do it just one day at a time, sometimes one hour at at time.

You stay positive for your brother, and you depend on your friends and family to get you thru this

We here are both.

montsnmags · 03-17-2009, 07:51 PM

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Originally Posted by pshrynk

I'm sitting at home, feeling bummed beyond all words. My brother was diagnosed with cancer laswt year and got radiation and chemo. He just called me and it's back. And there is very little hope that he will be with us this Christmas. I have no idea how to cope with this.

Shit! Crap! Mongrel! Bastiche! (the cancer, obviously).

I lost my father to prostate cancer in May 2003; my grandfather to the same 6 months later; my mother-out-law 6 months after that to meningioma (she'd had it removed twice over the preceding 18 months); and my dog, Monty (the "monts" in my username) to a very bloody and aggressive nasal adenocarcinoma in late 2006 (I know, it's "just a dog", but he was my "heart dog" and it ripped my heart apart and crumpled me to dust).

One would think experience would give an idea of "how to cope", but I just remember slogging through the morass through simple reflex - breathing and moving because it's what you do, and because, I suppose, in the end it's not you but someone else you need to keep moving for. I remember talking the hell out of it at times, knowing I was repeating the same phrases millions had spoken before, and I also remember moving away from any kind of talking or interraction, and I also remember finding a space outside of it (like an unassociated online forum or mailing list) where I could play the hypermanic fool, like a holiday away.

For what little it's worth, you're in my thoughts, pshrynk, and me and your other friends are here if you feel the need (for an ear, or simply for foolishness which I believe we're all pretty good at

)

Cheers,
Marc

yvanleterrible · 03-17-2009, 08:17 PM

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Originally Posted by pshrynk

I'm sitting at home, feeling bummed beyond all words. My brother was diagnosed with cancer laswt year and got radiation and chemo. He just called me and it's back. And there is very little hope that he will be with us this Christmas. I have no idea how to cope with this.

You can't cope with it until... well, until it's over.

Make the best of what time you can have with him. Grant him a wish. Go on a trip with him. Do his bucket list. Enjoy his presense, seek it, feel it, fill memories, loads of memories... tell him you love him.

Plan his funeral with him, be the MC, and you'll be happy you did it all and he will be happy too.

Sorry... that's all I know... give.

PDS · 03-17-2009, 08:25 PM

I am at work ..... meant to be working, but mindelessly reading MR posts and stealth reading on the Sony

Dawn

nekokami · 03-17-2009, 09:49 PM

Oh, pshrynk, I'm sorry.

I've been through this in the last year or so with several of my parents' friends who were so close we called them family. I hope you'll be able to spend some face time with your brother soon. Do the two of you live near each other?

pshrynk · 03-18-2009, 10:52 AM

He lives in Iowa City, a four hour drive away. Our parents and tow of our sibs lives quite close, as well. I'm planning on getting down there as quickly as I can. The bucket list is exactly what I'm going to ask him about. He has led a fairly full life, though. His main concern is to get back to work so he can have something to occupy his mind for as long as possible.

Thanks to all of you here. It helps me to be in amongst the silliness...

GeoffC · 03-18-2009, 12:34 PM

Stay positive pshrynk,
we'll all help out as much as we can - even if its only an odd bit of silliness in amongst the usual sensible posts......

03-14-2009, 12:31 AM	#3646
RWood Technogeezer Posts: 7,233 Karma: 1601464 Join Date: Nov 2006 Location: Virginia, USA Device: Sony PRS-500	Sorry, wrong planet

03-14-2009, 12:04 PM	#3647
GeoffC Chocolate Grasshopper ... Posts: 27,599 Karma: 20821184 Join Date: Mar 2008 Location: Scotland Device: Muse HD , Cybook Gen3 , Pocketbook 302 (Black) , Nexus 10: wife has PW	Who moved the universe?

03-17-2009, 06:44 PM	#3649
pshrynk Beepbeep n beebeep, yeah! Posts: 11,726 Karma: 8255450 Join Date: Apr 2008 Location: La Crosse, Wisconsin, aka America's IceBox Device: iThingie, KmkII, I miss Zelda!	I'm sitting at home, feeling bummed beyond all words. My brother was diagnosed with cancer laswt year and got radiation and chemo. He just called me and it's back. And there is very little hope that he will be with us this Christmas. I have no idea how to cope with this.

03-17-2009, 06:57 PM	#3652
Patricia Reader Posts: 11,504 Karma: 8720163 Join Date: May 2007 Location: South Wales, UK Device: Sony PRS-500, PRS-505, Asus EEEpc 4G	I'm so sorry pshrynk. I'm sure that you will find a way to cope, but give yourself some time. Am's right when she says to take things one day at a time. After a while you can begin to tolerate more than you ever thought possible. Meanwhile, I think that you have every reason to feel low.

03-17-2009, 07:06 PM	#3653
Madam Broshkina Manic Do Fuse Posts: 2,312 Karma: 3325462 Join Date: Oct 2006 Device: Sony 500, 505, 350, Kindle 3, DXG, nook, Irex DR800SG, iPad	deleted by op

03-17-2009, 08:25 PM	#3657
PDS Zealot Posts: 106 Karma: 46 Join Date: May 2008 Location: Brisbane, QLD, Austalia Device: Sony PRS-505, Dell Mini 9, I-Phone	I am at work ..... meant to be working, but mindelessly reading MR posts and stealth reading on the Sony Dawn

03-17-2009, 09:49 PM	#3658
nekokami fruminous edugeek Posts: 6,745 Karma: 551260 Join Date: Oct 2006 Location: Northeast US Device: iPad, eBw 1150	Oh, pshrynk, I'm sorry. I've been through this in the last year or so with several of my parents' friends who were so close we called them family. I hope you'll be able to spend some face time with your brother soon. Do the two of you live near each other?

03-18-2009, 10:52 AM	#3659
pshrynk Beepbeep n beebeep, yeah! Posts: 11,726 Karma: 8255450 Join Date: Apr 2008 Location: La Crosse, Wisconsin, aka America's IceBox Device: iThingie, KmkII, I miss Zelda!	He lives in Iowa City, a four hour drive away. Our parents and tow of our sibs lives quite close, as well. I'm planning on getting down there as quickly as I can. The bucket list is exactly what I'm going to ask him about. He has led a fairly full life, though. His main concern is to get back to work so he can have something to occupy his mind for as long as possible. Thanks to all of you here. It helps me to be in amongst the silliness...

03-18-2009, 12:34 PM	#3660
GeoffC Chocolate Grasshopper ... Posts: 27,599 Karma: 20821184 Join Date: Mar 2008 Location: Scotland Device: Muse HD , Cybook Gen3 , Pocketbook 302 (Black) , Nexus 10: wife has PW	Stay positive pshrynk, we'll all help out as much as we can - even if its only an odd bit of silliness in amongst the usual sensible posts......