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To insinuate that people need to be told not to put their head in a lions mouth is insulting. And to insinuate that people can lessen their chances of being assaulted, victimized, or bullied by avoiding your own definition of "risky situations" is ridiculous, and flies in the face of evidence to the contrary. Nine time out of ten, people aren't being victimized because they took what "you" deem to be unnecessary risks. They're being victimized because they got up in the morning and went about their day. So being told by anyone that they might have been able to lessen their chances of being victimized had they only had the wisdom to check in with "you" first about how their lives need to be adjusted to avoid jackwads in dark alleys is like pouring salt in their wounds. Especially when they were assaulted in broad daylight, in an upscale neighborhood, by someone they knew. Do you guys really believe that bad things are primarily happening to good people because they didn't have the good sense not to wander off into the shadows with strangers? ![]() Last edited by DiapDealer; 02-20-2020 at 09:17 AM. |
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My key point was this, which I will repeat since you have ignored it: "Every single word you have said here has downplayed and minimised the violence I am talking about. You ooze minimisation, dismissal, and victim blaming. " I am talking about violence. You are persistently dodging, weaving, and minimising/erasing violent attacks as "bad relationships" and "being accosted" and "family situations". That is the behaviour I'm criticising. You can't address violence if you are pretending it doesn't exist. |
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https://www.nbcnews.com/better/healt...get-ncna789226 This particular story is focused on women, but the basic rules of thumb - pay attention, project confidence, show that you are alert works for anyone. There is a lot of research on the subject, especially by the police or criminologists. If you go to a police self defense seminar, that's pretty much what they are going to teach you with some specific pointers depending on the audience. Maybe you just don't want to believe it or think it's blaming the victim. If so, fine. That's your choice. |
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The discussion is about prevention, not discussion afterwards. Here are things you can do to avoid becoming a victim. Or do you genuinely think that crime prevention suggestions like the Met Police ones I linked to are insulting victims, and shouldn't exist? If so, then I don't think this discussion is ever going to get any further. Clearly they aren't going to stop all attacks, or help everybody, but they will help some people, and that is worth doing. Quote:
What evidence? I can link to as many police departments, colleges, schools, etc... as you like that all give basically the same advice. Are they all wrong? Quote:
You seem to be arguing that because there are some crimes that cannot be avoided, we should never give people advice on how to avoid being the victims of crime. Last edited by murraypaul; 02-20-2020 at 01:44 PM. |
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Like you're not trying to be "right" and trying to get in the last word? Please. ![]() Last edited by DiapDealer; 02-20-2020 at 01:42 PM. |
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I genuinely don't understand your position.
What I've said is pretty banal crime prevention suggestions, as would be given by any crime prevention seminar, yet it has clearly offended you beyond measure. I do not understand why. |
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That's painfully obvious.
For the record: I was disturbed by the victim blaming on display here before you ever chimed in. Last edited by DiapDealer; 02-20-2020 at 02:04 PM. |
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Yes, there are preventative steps, however the discussion was in how you treat the victims of these attacks. Not how you treat those who have not been attacked. |
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The preventable steps do not work to eliminate victims from being exploited. It only lowers the chances for you personally to become a victim by highly increasing the chances for someone else to be the next victim. But that is okay, because you are safe. It was the other person's fault for being less diligent. Right? No, wrong, as you are again victim blaming. The dark alley example gets thrown around a lot. Bad things will happen. Don't go there. A self fulfilling prophecy, if you ask me. We as a society enabled the bullies to flock around dark alleys, because the majority of people avoids dark alleys out of fear of a potential bully. Last edited by DuckieTigger; 02-21-2020 at 01:59 AM. Reason: Typo |
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Part of the problem is what I like to call the "solving world hunger" issue. For some people, if you don't have a 100% solution for every aspect of a problem, then you are absolute garbage and having done anything. They will shout down anything that isn't a 100% solution. It's all "well what about this", "well, what about that". We aren't solving world hunger. We are solving this one small piece of the puzzle. You eat an elephant one bite at a time, not in one humongous gulp. |
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