The Vent and Rant Thread

[CRussel]

Originally Posted by DiapDealer

Are you aware that your vehicle is not even close to being parked correctly between the lines? Do you care? Is it apathy, selfishness, cluelessness, utter incompetence, or some combination of all four that makes you believe you have no obligation to even try? The lines painted on asphalt DO apply to you. Make a damn effort.

All of the above. Along with aggressive arrogance and the certainty that THEIR car is more important and precious than your parking convenience.

[4691mls]

Originally Posted by DiapDealer

Are you aware that your vehicle is not even close to being parked correctly between the lines? Do you care? Is it apathy, selfishness, cluelessness, utter incompetence, or some combination of all four that makes you believe you have no obligation to even try? The lines painted on asphalt DO apply to you. Make a damn effort.

Do you live in my building? because that could be addressed to one of my neighbors.....

I usually do a decent job of parking, but if I get out of my car and see that I have messed up I will get back in and move the car, rather than leave it to mess things up for everyone else.

[DiapDealer]

Originally Posted by CRussel

All of the above. Along with aggressive arrogance and the certainty that THEIR car is more important and precious than your parking convenience.

Originally Posted by 4691mls

Do you live in my building? because that could be addressed to one of my neighbors.....

I usually do a decent job of parking, but if I get out of my car and see that I have messed up I will get back in and move the car, rather than leave it to mess things up for everyone else.

Good to know I'm not alone in the fight against the almost-parkers of the world. I could be the only car in the parking lot and the very next car would find a way to block me in. I used to have pictures to prove it.

"Well I was just going to be a minute. Sheesh."

[HLS]

Originally Posted by CRussel

This is something you DO want a specialist doing. You're FAR less likely to have problems. For one thing, these days specialists are using things like CT scans to get a better, 3-D look at the problem area. Few regular dentists have the budget for that kind of equipment. Plus, an Oral Surgeon sees, and operates on, a far greater number of tricky extractions. And have thus been practicing on other people before they get to you.

They did no scans they used the emailed xray from my dentist. He had that sucker out fast. It was hard at work the next day for I work in a call center and jaw was a tad swollen. Surprising no pain it only bothered me at night. I used the Hydrocodone at night so I can sleep with the discomfort

[Hitch]

Originally Posted by DiapDealer

Good to know I'm not alone in the fight against the almost-parkers of the world. I could be the only car in the parking lot and the very next car would find a way to block me in. I used to have pictures to prove it.

"Well I was just going to be a minute. Sheesh."

Honestly, there are days when I have to restrain myself to be civilized about that crap. I would love to lose it one day and actually key someone, but...that's a vandalistic step too far for me. But that doesn't mean that my inner pissed-off person doesn't wanna! I mean...how bloody inconsiderate can you be, in a day and age when almost everything is under-parked, in terms of parking space? When you've driven around some building 3x, because there are no spaces and you see that some d*ck has made a space unusable (unless you're on a moped), it's hard to keep that veneer of civilization from sliding down your face like a peeling snake.

Hitch

[trichobezoar]

It's good you're feeling better, kcladyz.

Anal retentive, Army dense... gatekeeper. You want me to use the mismatched, ugly utensils I was given when I first came into the program? I already took them back. So what if I'm using my own utensils? I shouldn't have volunteered that information to you. Anything you could use against me, right? You seemed disappointed I volunteered 74 hours (instead of 40 hours) last month. The look of disappointment and surprise on your face... I'll never forget that. You must think I'm doing the least I could to get by. You must think little of me. You don't know who I am. You don't know what I'm capable of--that I could do circles around you when it comes to theorizing, even though you have a master's degree. You don't know what I've been through truly--what I've survived... You'll never know. I will surpass your expectations each and everytime, Army strong, Army dense ego.

[Fbone]

Stayed home all day waiting for 2 small deliveries.

One came at 5pm and the other 5:30pm.

Waited all day ...

[BetterRed]

@Fbone - At least they knocked on the door/rang the bell and you got the package.

I had one delivery (a $3500 computer) where I or someone else waited for three days - on the first two days a card was pushed under the door, no knock, no bell push. In late afternoon of third day we watched the courier park across the street, walk over to our house with a card in his hand - as he pushed it under the door I opened it...

I saved my insults until after he had carried the three boxes from his truck to the front verandah. They get paid whether they deliver the package or a card.

BR

[CRussel]

Yeah, but the card weighs less.

[John K]

Originally Posted by Hitch

Honestly, there are days when I have to restrain myself to be civilized about that crap. I would love to lose it one day and actually key someone, but...that's a vandalistic step too far for me. But that doesn't mean that my inner pissed-off person doesn't wanna! I mean...how bloody inconsiderate can you be, in a day and age when almost everything is under-parked, in terms of parking space? When you've driven around some building 3x, because there are no spaces and you see that some d*ck has made a space unusable (unless you're on a moped), it's hard to keep that veneer of civilization from sliding down your face like a peeling snake.

Hitch

Perhaps some vicarious revenge would help? Warning: you might want to turn your volume down.

[Hitch]

Originally Posted by trichobezoar

It's good you're feeling better, kcladyz.

Anal retentive, Army dense... gatekeeper. You want me to use the mismatched, ugly utensils I was given when I first came into the program? I already took them back. So what if I'm using my own utensils? I shouldn't have volunteered that information to you. Anything you could use against me, right? You seemed disappointed I volunteered 74 hours (instead of 40 hours) last month. The look of disappointment and surprise on your face... I'll never forget that. You must think I'm doing the least I could to get by. You must think little of me. You don't know who I am. You don't know what I'm capable of--that I could do circles around you when it comes to theorizing, even though you have a master's degree. You don't know what I've been through truly--what I've survived... You'll never know. I will surpass your expectations each and everytime, Army strong, Army dense ego.

I find myself compelled to ask--you seem to think that Army folks are stupid?

Hitch

[trichobezoar]

Originally Posted by Hitch

I find myself compelled to ask--you seem to think that Army folks are stupid?

Hitch

I didn't mean to offend you. I was afraid I'd offend someone... My mother was a contractor for the Army and... we didn't get a long. She was very dense... What I mean by dense is closed-minded, obstinate (willful), unreasonable, egocentric and controlling. She's a black and white Type A personality. She can't think outside of the box. My case manager's the same way. Yes, it's my case manager. He's also the most important gatekeeper in my life right now. He's extremely closed-minded, to the point that 9 out of 10 questions in his "Healthy Relationships" class (held every other week)... 9 out of 10 questions I got wrong because they weren't his answers. He's a very poor listener... And he ignored me for hours on two occassions--very unprofessional. I was trained in customer service in the Air Force... One should not treat customers/clients that way.

I've met dense people who were Army veterans, Air Force veterans (my acquaintance with the emotional IQ of a spatula is an Air Force vet)... Dense people come in all shapes and sizes. My mother was Army strong and Army dense... If one wasn't strong (if one showed signs of weakness), she disliked the person right away and made it clear. My case manager's like that. He's made it clear to me what he thinks of me--how little he thinks of me.

I've met people who were in the Army who were kind, open-minded, intelligent... It all has to do with training (socialization) and if one's been taken over by ego or not.

[Hitch]

Originally Posted by trichobezoar

I didn't mean to offend you. I was afraid I'd offend someone... My mother was a contractor for the Army and... we didn't get a long. She was very dense... What I mean by dense is closed-minded, obstinate (willful), unreasonable, egocentric and controlling. She's a black and white Type A personality. She can't think outside of the box. My case manager's the same way. Yes, it's my case manager. He's also the most important gatekeeper in my life right now. He's extremely closed-minded, to the point that 9 out of 10 questions in his "Healthy Relationships" class (held every other week)... 9 out of 10 questions I got wrong because they weren't his answers. He's a very poor listener... And he ignored me for hours on two occassions--very unprofessional. I was trained in customer service in the Air Force... One should not treat customers/clients that way.

Well, firstly, being a military contractor or civilian employee isn't the same thing as serving. People's mindsets, intelligence, openness, etc., have exceedingly little to do with their military service--they came that way. Sure, it's possible that people who tend to be a certain type of person might be attracted to military service--but so are all other types.

I was a National Merit Scholar. Top 1% in the country in SATs; had a full ride at several universities and an acceptance at two Ivies. I chose to serve because at the time, my male friends were being drafted for Viet Nam. I'd already been working in NYC for about 5 years, attending school parttime as I entered my senior year of school at 16. Given my friends were being drafted, and over the vociferous objections of my mother, I served.

People who do not listen don't last very long in the military. In the time post-Viet Nam, servicemen and women who didn't make the grade were rifted--rotated out, basically as not benefitting the military. The military doesn't want dunderheads any more than any other profession.

I've met dense people who were Army veterans, Air Force veterans (my acquaintance with the emotional IQ of a spatula is an Air Force vet)... Dense people come in all shapes and sizes. My mother was Army strong and Army dense... If one wasn't strong (if one showed signs of weakness), she disliked the person right away and made it clear. My case manager's like that. He's made it clear to me what he thinks of me--how little he thinks of me.

I doubt that's the result of his service. It's more likely to simply be how he is. As I said, people who don't listen and don't think don't have much a future in the service. Sure, they can try to be career grunts, but nobody can be an e-1 forever.

I've met people who were in the Army who were kind, open-minded, intelligent... It all has to do with training (socialization) and if one's been taken over by ego or not.

Being dense or stupid really has naught to do with socialization or training. Someone is stupid, or they aren't. It's not like serving lowers someone's IQ. It does, though, teach people self-discipline, teamwork and a variety of other useful skills. It's unfortunate that your relationship with your mother and this boss or whatever he is have tainted your viewpoint, but I can assure you, the military's populace is just as varied as any other environment--people are people.

Hitch

[trichobezoar]

I never said serving lowers one's IQ. I was in the service and I have a high IQ. In fact, the service (Air Force) helped save my life... My acquantance with a low emotional IQ was in Air Force intelligence!

And I was not referring, specifically, to analytical intelligence. What I meant by dense, more than anything, was being egocentric, closed-minded, unwilling (to listen to a subordinate/client, in this case), and dishonest about certain things. (My mother, on the other hand, was dishonest about everything.)

It seems to me you took what I said personally... I studied sociology for a few years and was developing a sociological theory (Ph.D. level theory, according to my would-be mentor) many years ago. I know a bit about socialization in this society. I haven't attended an actual class in 17 years though, so I'm rusty... One could not listen (attentively) to subordinates, yet kiss ass when it comes to superiors.

*looking over post again* I will not converse about specifics on the forum. If you wish to discuss this further via messages, that's fine. I'll do my best to address your concerns. But this is too personal to bicker about. Again, I'm sorry I offended you... It's obvious to me we're not on the same page when it comes to this subject matter and all its variables.

[covingtoncat73]

Yeah, I always regret when I list my carp on eBay. I'll only use Nextdoor or Facebook Marketplace from now on.