Doest thou deplore non-readers? - Page 3

pagansoul · 09-06-2012, 08:36 AM

Whenever I visit someones home the first thing I look for are what reading material they have around. The last guy I dated I actually met at Borders (now gone). I think what is more important for me is he has to like cats. I have three and they are my children.

Kumabjorn · 09-06-2012, 08:42 AM

Wonder if it is a female predilection? When I've mentioned this to my girlfriends they unanimously nod their heads in understanding. Maybe it is some unconscious selection process for the future father of our children? Once women have children, perhaps they care less?

wyndslash · 09-06-2012, 08:44 AM

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Originally Posted by Kumabjorn

Once women have children, perhaps they care less?

that could also be said for the men

xg4bx · 09-06-2012, 08:50 AM

Quote:

Originally Posted by Kumabjorn

Wonder if it is a female predilection? When I've mentioned this to my girlfriends they unanimously nod their heads in understanding. Maybe it is some unconscious selection process for the future father of our children? Once women have children, perhaps they care less?

i'm a guy and i wouldn't date/marry a non-reading girl.

nookkatz · 09-06-2012, 08:58 AM

There's always the possibility that a non-reader would object to the time that a reader spends reading, too. I saw that happen with my sister (the reader) and her husband.

I wouldn't date a non-reader, and he'd definitely have to love cats.

DarkScribe · 09-06-2012, 09:02 AM

Interesting. I find that I am seldom attracted in a "want to be in a relationship sense" to any woman who doesn't read. Being a guy, I have had brief relationships based on other things that appeal,

but with one exception they didn't last for very long. The one exception lasted a little over two years - I was obsessed with her but we had so little in common that it eventually disintegrated. She owned no books and had only read three in her adult life that were not associated with her career. I have also noticed that all of my longer term relationship were with women who liked puzzles, particularly cryptic crosswords.

We all have likes and dislikes and need at least some of those to be reflected in a long term partner. As long as the personal tastes of a partner aren't too disparate we can generally get along. For instance I couldn't live with anyone who wanted to play RAP/HipHop in my hearing, but I don't mind if they aren't as fond of Jazz or classic Rock as I am.

tubemonkey · 09-06-2012, 09:04 AM

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Originally Posted by nookkatz

I wouldn't date a non-reader, and he'd definitely have to love cats.

wyndslash · 09-06-2012, 09:04 AM

Have any of you guys ever dated readers who were simply too full of themselves? i mean, that because they were readers they considered themselves as intellectuals and better than everyone else...?

soulfuldog · 09-06-2012, 09:06 AM

You couldn't have liked him much if that was all that it took for you to make such a sharp exit.

Personally, I'd be far more concerned if he hated dogs or cats than if he didn't read. Non-reader would probably be on the list somewhere though.... if I actually had a list that is.

In saying that, I have an uncle who doesn't like reading at all (his wife is an avid reader), but he's a charming and intelligent guy and he and his wife are 30-years happily married.

Edit for a follow-up to wyndslash's post, a guy who considered himself better than everyone else because they are 'well-read' is possibly more of a turn-off than someone who doesn't read. Arrogance, superiority, they would definitely be on my list!

tubemonkey · 09-06-2012, 09:08 AM

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Originally Posted by wyndslash

Have any of you guys ever dated readers who were simply too full of themselves? i mean, that because they were readers they considered themselves as intellectuals and better than everyone else...?

Nope.

wyndslash · 09-06-2012, 09:14 AM

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Originally Posted by l_macd

Edit for a follow-up to wyndslash's post, a guy who considered himself better than everyone else because they are 'well-read' is possibly more of a turn-off than someone who doesn't read. Arrogance, superiority, they would definitely be on my list!

very true. it's just that i seem to run into a lot of those types of guys here. it's quite annoying.

ah well, when your first requirement is no PMS, that really cuts the numbers down to size

elemenoP · 09-06-2012, 09:14 AM

When looking at potential marriage material, yes a lack of books would be a big problem. (and I have mentioned this before, but my now-husband actually tricked me in this way! When I first went to his apartment, he had TONS of books, literary and otherwise. It turns out, he has finished hardly any of them. Ha ha.)

HOWEVER, it doesn't sound like you were looking for marriage-material in your rendezvous. I can't say that a lack of books would bother me, in that case? Maybe you have higher standards than me.

eP

Barty · 09-06-2012, 09:30 AM

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Originally Posted by pagansoul

Whenever I visit someones home the first thing I look for are what reading material they have around. The last guy I dated I actually met at Borders (now gone). I think what is more important for me is he has to like cats. I have three and they are my children.

I read and like cats. In fact, I'm like a cat. Majority of the time, I like to be left alone. I'll rub up against you when I feel affectionate, but if you get too frisky, I'll run away.

I'm also tall, dark, and umm, that's it.

LovesMacs · 09-06-2012, 09:38 AM

I think the real turn-off would be someone who scorns reading for pleasure.

Penforhire · 09-06-2012, 11:31 AM

I have to admit I meet very few true non-readers who stimulate me. My current GF is probably the least-frequent reader I've dated (yet still has maybe 40 linear feet of stuffed bookshelves). She makes up for it with as much enthusiasm for edged weapons and devices that go bang as I have.

09-06-2012, 08:36 AM	#31
pagansoul Fanatic Posts: 509 Karma: 1098204 Join Date: Jun 2008 Location: Earth Device: iPhone5, iPad Gen3, Kobo, Kindle Fire, Kobo Vox. Samsung Galaxy Tab 7	Whenever I visit someones home the first thing I look for are what reading material they have around. The last guy I dated I actually met at Borders (now gone). I think what is more important for me is he has to like cats. I have three and they are my children. Last edited by pagansoul; 09-06-2012 at 08:43 AM.

09-06-2012, 09:06 AM	#39
soulfuldog I ♥ Calibre Posts: 2,073 Karma: 5678911 Join Date: Aug 2011 Location: UK Device: Kindle Oasis, Voyage, Sony PRS-350, Hudl2	You couldn't have liked him much if that was all that it took for you to make such a sharp exit. Personally, I'd be far more concerned if he hated dogs or cats than if he didn't read. Non-reader would probably be on the list somewhere though.... if I actually had a list that is. In saying that, I have an uncle who doesn't like reading at all (his wife is an avid reader), but he's a charming and intelligent guy and he and his wife are 30-years happily married. Edit for a follow-up to wyndslash's post, a guy who considered himself better than everyone else because they are 'well-read' is possibly more of a turn-off than someone who doesn't read. Arrogance, superiority, they would definitely be on my list! Last edited by soulfuldog; 09-06-2012 at 09:14 AM.

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09-06-2012, 08:42 AM	#32
Kumabjorn Basculocolpic Posts: 4,356 Karma: 20181319 Join Date: Jul 2010 Location: Sweden Device: Kindle 3 WiFi, Kindle 4SO, Kindle for Android, Sony PRS-350 and PRS-T1	Wonder if it is a female predilection? When I've mentioned this to my girlfriends they unanimously nod their heads in understanding. Maybe it is some unconscious selection process for the future father of our children? Once women have children, perhaps they care less?

09-06-2012, 08:58 AM	#35
nookkatz Tuxedo Cats! Posts: 210 Karma: 1033575 Join Date: Aug 2010 Device: Nooks and iThings	There's always the possibility that a non-reader would object to the time that a reader spends reading, too. I saw that happen with my sister (the reader) and her husband. I wouldn't date a non-reader, and he'd definitely have to love cats.

09-06-2012, 09:02 AM	#36
DarkScribe Apprentice Curmudgeon. Posts: 427 Karma: 3286968 Join Date: Apr 2011 Location: Runaway Bay, QLD, , Australia Device: Kindle DX Graphite, Touch, Paperwhite, Sony, and Nook.	Interesting. I find that I am seldom attracted in a "want to be in a relationship sense" to any woman who doesn't read. Being a guy, I have had brief relationships based on other things that appeal, but with one exception they didn't last for very long. The one exception lasted a little over two years - I was obsessed with her but we had so little in common that it eventually disintegrated. She owned no books and had only read three in her adult life that were not associated with her career. I have also noticed that all of my longer term relationship were with women who liked puzzles, particularly cryptic crosswords. We all have likes and dislikes and need at least some of those to be reflected in a long term partner. As long as the personal tastes of a partner aren't too disparate we can generally get along. For instance I couldn't live with anyone who wanted to play RAP/HipHop in my hearing, but I don't mind if they aren't as fond of Jazz or classic Rock as I am.

09-06-2012, 09:04 AM	#38
wyndslash Wizard Posts: 2,951 Karma: 3000001 Join Date: Feb 2011 Device: Kindle 3 wifi, Kindle Fire	Have any of you guys ever dated readers who were simply too full of themselves? i mean, that because they were readers they considered themselves as intellectuals and better than everyone else...?

09-06-2012, 09:14 AM	#42
elemenoP Wizard Posts: 1,717 Karma: 3790058 Join Date: Oct 2010 Location: NYC Device: Kindle Paperwhite, Sony 650	When looking at potential marriage material, yes a lack of books would be a big problem. (and I have mentioned this before, but my now-husband actually tricked me in this way! When I first went to his apartment, he had TONS of books, literary and otherwise. It turns out, he has finished hardly any of them. Ha ha.) HOWEVER, it doesn't sound like you were looking for marriage-material in your rendezvous. I can't say that a lack of books would bother me, in that case? Maybe you have higher standards than me. eP

09-06-2012, 09:38 AM	#44
LovesMacs Fanatic Posts: 513 Karma: 2644386 Join Date: Apr 2012 Device: iPhone, Kindle Touch	I think the real turn-off would be someone who scorns reading for pleasure.

09-06-2012, 11:31 AM	#45
Penforhire Wizard Posts: 2,230 Karma: 7145404 Join Date: Nov 2007 Location: Southern California Device: Kindle Voyage & iPhone 7+	I have to admit I meet very few true non-readers who stimulate me. My current GF is probably the least-frequent reader I've dated (yet still has maybe 40 linear feet of stuffed bookshelves). She makes up for it with as much enthusiasm for edged weapons and devices that go bang as I have.

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