What is in your cup?

[bjones6416]

Originally Posted by Stitchawl

I just learned that it is entirely possible to use too much Cayenne pepper.

I'm now drinking mango lassi to cure my abused tongue.

(Honey would actually work better to stop the burn, but I really love mango lassi!)


Stitchawl

I love mango lassi, too. I don't normally drink many fruit juices or fruit juice concoctions, but I could drink gallons of that stuff!

[Sweetpea]

Originally Posted by Stitchawl

Traveling together is the true test of a working relationship. If it can stand the stresses of a trip, there is hope for the future. Spending so much time in resort areas, I've watched couples/groups split apart left and right. Often it is just too much pressure.

It's just a matter of having a good understanding. During our trip, I'd get the bread (we went camping) and he would make tea. Very important to not forget your cup of tea each morning!

[Stitchawl]

Originally Posted by Sweetpea

Very important to not forget your cup of tea each morning!

Very! And afternoon and evening too. There is nothing quite like a good cup of tea when camping. For that matter, there is nothing quite like a good cup of tea anytime!

But I may be prejudiced.


Stitchawl

[Cyclops]

Tesco filter coffee. Not bad!

[Stitchawl]

Originally Posted by Cyclops

Tesco filter coffee. Not bad!

Is Tesco suffering from economic problems these days? The Japanese merged 'Jusco' seems to be selling out to Aeon all over Japan, and I heard that the Thai merger, 'Tesco Lotus' was selling out to Carrfour.

Wassup?


Stitchawl

[maianhvk]

Originally Posted by Stitchawl

Traveling together is the true test of a working relationship. If it can stand the stresses of a trip, there is hope for the future. Spending so much time in resort areas, I've watched couples/groups split apart left and right. Often it is just too much pressure.

Really? I thought traveling together is the best way to improve a relationship... Can you be more specific? What pressure does it possibly give? Does it only apply to the relationship between couples? Or is it true with friendship and other relationship also?

(Because I traveled several times with a friend, and once with my brother-in-law, everything was fine. Wonder if this "true test" only applies to love relationship.)

[HomeInMyShoes]

Coffee. Black. Say "adios" cobwebs of my mind.

[bjones6416]

Originally Posted by maianhvk

Really? I thought traveling together is the best way to improve a relationship... Can you be more specific? What pressure does it possibly give? Does it only apply to the relationship between couples? Or is it true with friendship and other relationship also?

(Because I traveled several times with a friend, and once with my brother-in-law, everything was fine. Wonder if this "true test" only applies to love relationship.)

I can say with absolute assurance that this applies to ALL relationships, including friends and family members.

I recently took a trip with a friend -- kind of a "girl's road trip." The one thing most aggravating to me during the trip was that at the hotel, the first thing she did upon walking into the room was turn on the tv. That's always the LAST thing I want to do. We finally came to an understanding that if she was actually watching something I didn't care if she turned it on, but I can't stand to have a tv on just for the noise. I don't like noise...

It didn't spoil the trip for me, but it did add a bit of tension that I didn't anticipate.

[Stitchawl]

Originally Posted by maianhvk

Really? I thought traveling together is the best way to improve a relationship... Can you be more specific? What pressure does it possibly give?

Many different ways... Choice of foods to eat, how different people react to the cleanliness of toilets encountered along the way (ever been in a rural central Malaysia old fashioned bus station toilet?) late busses or trains, missing a scheduled train or bus, meeting unusual people, dealing with lost personal items, dealing with illness or danger, or simply dealing with choosing a hotel room... Everybody has different needs and desires, and many folks just can't be flexible.

Does it only apply to the relationship between couples? Or is it true with friendship and other relationship also?

Any and every. It could be just how one person deals with travel pressures, or it could be multiplied by the number of people traveling together.

(Because I traveled several times with a friend, and once with my brother-in-law, everything was fine. Wonder if this "true test" only applies to love relationship.)

I have a feeling that you are a very flexible individual. Coming from S.E. Asia you have grown up dealing with the need to be flexible. Many folks from the North America, Europe, and the like tend to be much more demanding that things go exactly as they wish them to go, especially when on vacations. That things be exactly what they expect them to be, at the same level of comfort that they experience at home. They forget that everybody's home might be different.

I remember a time waiting for a north-bound train at the Thai/Malaysia border... It was supposed to arrive at 7pm. It hadn't arrived by 9pm the Western people were all stamping their feet, getting more and more angry with each passing minute, demanding that the Station Master tell them exactly when the train was going to be there. The local folk waiting just spread sarongs on the ground, lied down and went to sleep. I was lucky... I had a sleeping bag pad to put under my sarong.

The more people in the group, the greater the chance for different needs and expectations. The greater the need to care for another's needs, the more difficult the situation.

If you ever have the opportunity to be a tour guide over a several day trip, you will really understand this problem. I've run into many people who simply 'refuse' to use an Asian 'squat toilet.' Refuse. For a while...

Stitchawl

[Stitchawl]

Originally Posted by bjones6416

I recently took a trip with a friend -- kind of a "girl's road trip." The one thing most aggravating to me during the trip was that at the hotel, the first thing she did upon walking into the room was turn on the tv. That's always the LAST thing I want to do.

That's one of the reasons I like to stay in places that don't have electricity. Or only have it turned on from 9am to 7pm. Of course, in those places all the local villagers gather together at noon to watch "Supermarket Sweep" on the one TV in town!


Stitchawl

[ProfCrash]

Originally Posted by Iridal

We only have one week of vacation together (his vacation starts in the last week of my vacation), and in that week he'll be abroad travelling with a friend And we don't have that much vacation left, so the next opportunity to go away together is in between Christmas and New Year ...

My Hubby and I had been dating a week when he asked me to join him at his familys lake cottage that year. It was a bit unnerving. Our first trip together was to spend time with his parents and family friends for a week.

I still don't get why it took him 5 years to propose...

Stitchawl is right, travelling together is a real test. You find out about how willing the other party is to do what you like doing and how willing you are to do what they like doing. You learn a lot about attitudes toawrds money, does you partner want to stay at a place that is really expensive and not happy to stay at a place a little less pricey or is your partner insisting on staying at the cheapest place possible. Do you really share the same idea about what food to eat? Do you have compatible relxation patterns and if you don't are you able to find a smooth work around?

I read and my Husband doesn't. His ideal vacation is chilling on a beach, swimming, and napping with a little bit of other stuff thrown in. My ideal vacation is visiting a foreign country and emersing myself in its history. We have agreed that I will be taking trips on my own with friends every once in a while because my ideal is his hell. I am ok with lying on the beach for a few days but I really need more activity then that. He gets it so we go snorkelling and do some more hiking.

He hates flying, he is tall and sitting on a plane in coach is painful for him. I love it. So one year we go to a local place and the next we will go some place on a plane. We have been looking at places we can take the train to.

The point is you don't know this stuff until you have travelled together. If you don't share vacation commonalities that is probably a good indication that you are going to have big issues in other areas.

Money is the most common reason people get divorced. If you want to stay, and can afford to do so easily, at a three star hotel and he is upset because you could save money by staying at a two star hotel you might find that later on he wants to save money by not doing certain things.

[Stitchawl]

Traveling, especially in 3rd World Countries is especially difficult. I'll eat anything that I see being cooked in front of me from street vendors. The idea of BBQ'd Rat-on-a-Stick doesn't bother me at all. But I've run into a lot of travelers who will ONLY eat at McDonalds or KFC when traveling through S.E. Asia... That can cause a LOT of stress to a couple or group.

ProfCrash has the right idea... Separate vacations from time to time are healthy ways of dealing with differing ideas of 'what is fun.' It's great to be able to share with loved ones and friends, but that is often simply not possible. I love to stay in low budget guest houses but my wife like nice hotels. I think you get to meet more people in the guest houses. Folks in hotels seem to isolate themselves more. When I travel alone, I sleep where I want. When we travel together, we sleep where she wants. It works for us. It reduces all the stress.

At the airport, I want to be the first person at the ticket counter for check in. My wife would be more than happy to be last. But when we travel together, she will be right there with me, first in line. When she travels alone, she moves at her own pace. It works for us.

Stitchawl

[astra]

Originally Posted by Stitchawl

I'm now drinking mango lassi to cure my abused tongue.

It is widely available in UK and I have never heard about it. Live and learn

Originally Posted by maianhvk

Really? I thought traveling together is the best way to improve a relationship... Can you be more specific? What pressure does it possibly give? Does it only apply to the relationship between couples? Or is it true with friendship and other relationship also?

I think travelling does taste relationship.
Husband and wife.
Day-to-day life is a routine. They follow the same well-trodden roads each day, they have their own niches and safe havens. They are used to it, the might not even notice each other to a certain degree. They interact with many people, they most likely have an active social life.
Holiday.
When they leave their house and go for a trip it a whole lot different kettle of fish. All of sudden they are pulled out of their comfort zone and thrown into a new environment. They start to interact with each other on a different level, see good/bad sides in a different light, have to live with it whether they like it or not, because there is no where to go. They have to enjoy/suffer each other presence 24/7 for a week, or two without their friends to dilute it.
It could be a lot of fun, it could be dead boring, it could be intolerable. Without any warning they are together for a long time and they find out that they enjoy it more than anything else in the world, or that they cannot stand each other one more minute.
I know for a fact that some couples returned devastated from holiday.



Anyway, it is hectic at work, only the second cup of tea - Keemun. I think I am going to make third cuppa, Keemun again.

[astra]

I saw today another ebook eInk reader in the wild but not sure what brand. In Addenbrrok's hospital. The lady was so engrossed that I didn't dare to interrupt her

[ProfCrash]

Finishing pot one of Rooibos Lemon. I was surprised that the Iron Goddess I made yesterday never unfurled. The leaves loosened a bit but they were still balled up after a third steeping. There was plenty of space for them to expand so that was not the issue.

A couple that is dating and not living together is used to having plenty of time on their own interspersed with fun time together. But when the day is done or night or whatever, you have your own place to go home to. You have your own routines.

When you travel together you have limited space and limited time apart. If you are sharing a hotel room then you have to deal with different toilet habits and sleeping habits.

Hubby hates sheets and loves duveys. If we are staying at a place with sheets he kicks the sheets out from the bed so he can wrap himself up like it is a duvey. I will sometimes ask for a second top sheet and blanket so he can have his own sheet nightmare and I can be comfy with my organized sheets.

When I travel with my friend we have one day in the middle of the week where she does her own thing and I do my own thing. I love going to art museums, she loves wax museums. We meet up for dinner. It is a nice change of pace.