The Vent and Rant Thread

[WT Sharpe]

Originally Posted by SneakySnake

I wanna hug her excessively. I love the thought of a cat oozing off the couch and not waking up! Mr M oozes off the bed sometimes, but he always wakes up. Then he sits up licks himself and gives you that "Do I look bovvered?" look.

I'm not sure Poohbear wants a snake to hug the kitty!

[poohbear_nc]

Originally Posted by WT Sharpe

I'm not sure Poohbear wants a snake to hug the kitty!

If the kitty wakes me up early again on a weekend, I might hire the "SneakySnake Cat-Sitting Service." And pay for the premium extra-tight hug service!

[SneakySnake]

Originally Posted by WT Sharpe

I'm not sure Poohbear wants a snake to hug the kitty!

Originally Posted by poohbear_nc

If the kitty wakes me up early again on a weekend, I might hire the "SneakySnake Cat-Sitting Service." And pay for the premium extra-tight hug service!

you guys know I am not a REAL snake huh?
Mr M has made it to the ripe old age of 9 with lotsa hugs and he is fine!

And you can have him lately. Because it is cold, he is either in or on the bed. it must have been only moderately cold because he spent last night hogging my foot room and pinning down the doona so my movement was restricted. This morning I have a sore back

if it had been really cold, he would have done the cold night trick.

Step 1. Wait patiently for SS to go to sleep.
Step 2. Sneak onto the bed on her side taking care not to wake bloke (he has a fast foot)
Step 3 Nose under the covers near SS's neck.
Step 4 Burrow under the covers and turn around ensuring that head comes out on SS's pillow.
Step 5 Look as cute as possible so she won't kick me off.
Step 6 repeat Step 1.
Step 7 relax all paws so that claws stick out and put little holes in SS's back.
Step 8 Patiently relax as SS puts me on my own pillow.
Step 9 Repeat step 1 and all other steps several times until 3.30am
Step 10 At 3.30am jump on and off the bed several times ensuring that wah wahs are sufficently loud to wake everyone up.
Step 11 Get let out(or fluffy roll OR ask for food) and wait patiently for the doorman to go back to bed.
Step 12 Wah wah as loud as possible to get back in.

I need some sleep!

[CWatkinsNash]

Originally Posted by SneakySnake

you guys know I am not a REAL snake huh?

Yeah, right. Next you'll be telling me that VR's not really a dog and the Ice Fairy isn't really the one filling up the ice trays I leave on the counter. Sheesh.

[SneakySnake]

Originally Posted by CWatkinsNash

Yeah, right. Next you'll be telling me that VR's not really a dog and the Ice Fairy isn't really the one filling up the ice trays I leave on the counter. Sheesh.

Your ice fairy fills up the ice trays!

My ice fairy takes all the ice out of the freezer! And I have to fill the trays.

[wyndslash]

i hate my family x.x it seems there is no other institution made in the world to make you feel like shit. sometimes i wish my parents were ____. is that bad of me? ._.

[DixieGal]

Originally Posted by wyndslash

i hate my family x.x it seems there is no other institution made in the world to make you feel like shit. sometimes i wish my parents were ____. is that bad of me? ._.

Get a job and move out.

I wish I still had parents.

[maianhvk]

Originally Posted by wyndslash

i hate my family x.x it seems there is no other institution made in the world to make you feel like shit. sometimes i wish my parents were ____. is that bad of me? ._.

never talk about your own parents like that.

[poohbear_nc]

So - I get to work this morning - 7:45 am - note it's too quiet - must have been a power outage last night - don't hear the hum of stuff normally left on. I sit down at my desk to start on reports ... and the power goes out. And stays out. For 3 hours. In the 90 F+ heat. I'm reading stuff by flashlight. A great way to start the day.

[DixieGal]

Originally Posted by poohbear_nc

So - I get to work this morning - 7:45 am - note it's too quiet - must have been a power outage last night - don't hear the hum of stuff normally left on. I sit down at my desk to start on reports ... and the power goes out. And stays out. For 3 hours. In the 90 F+ heat. I'm reading stuff by flashlight. A great way to start the day.

Crap! That blows! (fuses)

[poohbear_nc]

Duke Energy issued a statement - that some sort of equipment failure in a substation was probably the cause .... That sure makes me feel confident they found & fixed the problem!

[montsnmags]

Originally Posted by wyndslash

i hate my family x.x it seems there is no other institution made in the world to make you feel like shit. sometimes i wish my parents were ____. is that bad of me? ._.

Families are built to do that, wyndslash. There aren't many groups you will come across that you will be forced into such claustrophobic intimacy with, and who also often have so much power over your developing freedom of thought and motivation for unconstrained living. That can bite at times. Real hard.

I don't think it's "bad" for you to feel that way. In most cases, what we "feel" is reflexive and so we don't have control over it. It can be good to be honest with yourself about what you feel, as it can help you look at what gives rise to those feelings and do something with them if necessary. Or sometimes just let them be. Or sometimes acknowledge that they come from an area unjustified, and reject them (if only for your own mental health).

Families can drive you nuts. If I look at my family honestly I would say, in my current state, at near-41, that they have provided me with more misery and anger than any other people in my life, even those who have hated me. They still do and for me that pain has grown. But that's a whole 'nother kettle of coffee. It seems for a lot of people that misery can appear through childhood, especially the burgeoning enlightenment of teenage years, but that we "grow out of it" like a set of clothes no longer stylish. I guess the closest I felt was to hate my sister (whom I still occasionally refer to as The AntiChrist), and probably wished her dead many a time. But I don't do that now (wish her dead that is - I still call her The AntiChrist, which she finds amusing).

I lost my father a few years ago to prostate cancer. I don't believe I ever wished him dead, and certainly it opened a dark pit in our family from which monsters arise. I know one of my brothers would have wished him dead long ago (they did not get on), and my sister would have wished my mum dead a few times. I'm a deeply neurotic ultra-introvert and always have been, and we tend to wish ourselves dead mostly. I can relate (no pun intended) to the "feeling" of hatred and death.

It is probably better to express than suppress, but when you do so do so to yourself or very close friends, as I strongly suspect those feelings to be of the temporary reactive type (not ones you will always hold, so any action performed under their duress is primed for regret, and in this case a hard regret). If you can find a place you can trust to vent or rant, where people might be supportive or have advice to gently offer rather than be actively disagreeable and judgmental, that would probably be good too - it gets the bile out, and like a good vomit you can feel better, and different, afterwards. I believe there's a thread around here for just that.

I will not tell you that later on you will appreciate family and just how much they have done and will do for you...how supportive and important they can be, over all others. I can't say that because every individual and every family is different and that archetype of FAMILY may be desirable, common even, but I think even in the "best" families there are times when 'tis more honoured in the breach than the observance. But it's a good chance, and as a peaceful time comes upon you (sometimes rare in a family environment ) reflection may have you laugh at your former feeling (if still feel some of its motivating anger or resentment). Or not, it's all a rich tapestry.

So, I'd just say "hold steady", captain. Let 'er rip here if you need, or to a trustful friend, but hold steady in your head. A small ugliness can distract from the greater beauty, and if you let the immediate frustration pass, you can sometimes see that beauty again, if for a moment before the next minor distraction. Don't hold the ugliness in your head though, especially the ugly thoughts engendered. I know you don't really think them (just feel) but they will get in the way of the steady parade of new and reflective and enlightening thoughts that march hard against your years. Go around, move on, enjoy the journey when you can. The view changes all the time, and distance does make the heart grow fonder.

But feel encouraged to vent and rant here when you need. That's what this thread, and we, are for.

Cheers,
Marc

[DixieGal]

My realtor does not seem to comprehend that we have been homeless for 5 weeks. Tomorrow I will fire the SOB unless he gets us into the 7 listings I sent him. i am doing his job because he is too darned stupid. GRRRR!

And he can take that Latino machismo and shove it up his @ss. I am the business end of this family.

[montsnmags]

Originally Posted by DixieGal

My realtor does not seem to comprehend that we have been homeless for 5 weeks. Tomorrow I will fire the SOB unless he gets us into the 7 listings I sent him. i am doing his job because he is too darned stupid. GRRRR!

And he can take that Latino machismo and shove it up his @ss. I am the business end of this family.

I smile so widely not out of mockery or trivialization, but because I always want you on my side. You're awesome, DixieGal. I hope, for his sake as well, he pulls his finger out right now.

Cheers,
Marc

[DixieGal]

Originally Posted by montsnmags

I smile so widely not out of mockery or trivialization, but because I always want you on my side. You're awesome, DixieGal. I hope, for his sake as well, he pulls his finger out right now.

Cheers,
Marc

Want me to punch your family for you? NOBODY messes with my friends!