What is in your cup?

[astra]

Originally Posted by GeoffC

green tea ....

What green tea do you drink?

[ProfCrash]

Originally Posted by beppe

Listen to what she says, Iridal. The problem is that of nice guys or better of men - given your age bracket I think you should look for some one in the early/middle thirties, if you get him of your age ... - available for more than just hit and run there is less and less. This is what I ear from all directions. A place that is coming back in fashion is work. There at least you get a more accurate idea of who is who. But most of the decent ones are already taken. Prof was very very lucky to get his marvel. She knows it btw.

My intuition is that, one day not too faraway, may be real soon, you will be walking downtown looking for a new pair of shoes and eying through the windows of the shops, when he will bump into you and you will help him to collect the packages he has bought for his old Aunties (he has 3, you will know all of these saucy details in a second time). Luckily he is orphan, the little angel. Little ... not little at all. Quite a man actually, just a little shy. You are standing there, he has recovered his packages, you do not know what to say, it might just be this, a nothing turning in nothingness, when again someone bumps you, and this time you end up again the orphan. He steadies you, You look him up in the face and ... Ding! You both are hit. And you both start to laugh in each other face, which to me is just what it takes ...

LOL You are soooooo Italian.

I loved my 6 months in Milan. I date three hotties, one for three months. Try explaining why you are a virgin and going to stay a virgin to three hot, young Italian men in their 20's.....

[beppe]

Originally Posted by ProfCrash

LOL You are soooooo Italian.

I loved my 6 months in Milan. I date three hotties, one for three months. Try explaining why you are a virgin and going to stay a virgin to three hot, young Italian men in their 20's.....

ahhh what a joy, the more you explained, the more they were unconvinced, and they asked you to tell it once more, You are a devil.

[pdurrant]

Originally Posted by Iridal

I know it's easy in theory. I also know from experience that the couple of times when I took the iniative were really hard and nervewrecking. I just need some more time to prepare. I'll get there in the end

There an interesting paper investigating Gender* Differences in Receptivity to Sexual Offers. The experiment was with college students, of course, on a college campus.

About 50% of men or women in the study said Yes when asked (by a 'plain clothes' researcher of the opposite sex): "I have been noticing you around campus. I find you very attractive. Would you go out with me tonight?"

So: Ask! You probably have a better than 50% chance of getting a "yes" for a date.

You (being a woman) could get that up to 70% or more by changing the question you ask, but I don't advise that strategy. See the paper for the details: http://www.elainehatfield.com/79.pdf.

Oh - and Coke Zero #3 at the moment!







* Wrong word, of course. They meant sex differences

[maianhvk]

oohhh. I've been out for just a day and there are so many things to catch up. I had a wonderful Friday night, really enjoyed myself How is yours?

back to the marriage thing. okay, to sum up all the replies I think all of you advise me to...

Spoiler:

Time will tell, huh?

@ KK, Iridal, GeoffC, ProfCrash, Astra, Beppe: thank you for your stories and advices Don't know if I'll remember all of them when it's time

@ latinandgreek: hope you get well soon.

Originally Posted by Iridal

You know, all this talk about love, relationship, being in the right place at the right time and taking chances really has me thinking ... Hmmm ... Now I just need the courage. Or maybe just some alcohol

Cup of green tea orange & peppermint.

no no no no, be careful with alcohol.
ah, by the way, how was the strike?

oh, I'm drinking

[Iridal]

Originally Posted by desertblues

You just take care with the alcohol. You want a clear head to see what's right and what's wrong.
A girl has to look out for herself. Don't trust a perfect stranger to do that for you. Nowhere.

Originally Posted by beppe

Listen to what she says, Iridal. The problem is that of nice guys or better of men - given your age bracket I think you should look for some one in the early/middle thirties, if you get him of your age ... - available for more than just hit and run there is less and less. This is what I ear from all directions. A place that is coming back in fashion is work. There at least you get a more accurate idea of who is who. But most of the decent ones are already taken. Prof was very very lucky to get his marvel. She knows it btw.

My intuition is that, one day not too faraway, may be real soon, you will be walking downtown looking for a new pair of shoes and eying through the windows of the shops, when he will bump into you and you will help him to collect the packages he has bought for his old Aunties (he has 3, you will know all of these saucy details in a second time). Luckily he is orphan, the little angel. Little ... not little at all. Quite a man actually, just a little shy. You are standing there, he has recovered his packages, you do not know what to say, it might just be this, a nothing turning in nothingness, when again someone bumps you, and this time you end up again the orphan. He steadies you, You look him up in the face and ... Ding! You both are hit. And you both start to laugh in each other face, which to me is just what it takes ...

OK, no alcohol. Promise! You paint a pretty picture Beppe. I'm actually going shopping tomorrow, I'll keep my eye out for shy not so little orphan boys

Wait, mid thirties I don't think so.

Originally Posted by desertblues

Cold Arabica- coffee, at the hairdressers.

I hope you had fun, I love going to the hairdresser!

Originally Posted by ProfCrash

LOL You are soooooo Italian.

I loved my 6 months in Milan. I date three hotties, one for three months. Try explaining why you are a virgin and going to stay a virgin to three hot, young Italian men in their 20's.....

Heh, I'm guessing they weren't the three guys who turned out to be gay

Originally Posted by maianhvk

ah, by the way, how was the strike?

Terrible! This morning was fine, I didn't have any traffic jams. But this evening ... I have to drive 70 kilometers, and it took me two and a half hours. But anyway, it's weekend now

Originally Posted by pdurrant

There an interesting paper investigating Gender* Differences in Receptivity to Sexual Offers. The experiment was with college students, of course, on a college campus.

About 50% of men or women in the study said Yes when asked (by a 'plain clothes' researcher of the opposite sex): "I have been noticing you around campus. I find you very attractive. Would you go out with me tonight?"

So: Ask! You probably have a better than 50% chance of getting a "yes" for a date.

You (being a woman) could get that up to 70% or more by changing the question you ask, but I don't advise that strategy. See the paper for the details: http://www.elainehatfield.com/79.pdf.

We talked about this study in our psychology class. Very interesting, thanks!

[MarkAdair]

Cool, clear, water...

[pdurrant]

Originally Posted by maianhvk

back to the marriage thing. okay, to sum up all the replies I think all of you advise me to...

Spoiler:

I'm not sure that's a fair summary of all the advice. Then again, free advice is often only worth what you paid for it.

Just to add to the mix, let me add in my "how I met my spouse" story.

I did a lot of country dancing when I was young, and we met at dances. We went out for about four or five months, had a silly argument and split up. Meeting by accident a week or two later, I proposed — somewhat to both our surprises. We were married less than a year we first met. It'll be 24 years on 3rd July.

[desertblues]

White wine and water

[astra]

Noname oolong.

[pdurrant]

Sainsbury's Sparkling Lemon & Lime Fruit Crush (no added sugar)

(Water, Lemon and Lime juice from concentrate (2%), Citric Acid, Natural Flavorings, Sodium Citrate, Sucralose, Malic Acid)

An interesting soft drink that is less carbonated than most.

[ProfCrash]

Water

[desertblues]

White wine and water nr.3

[willijt]

Originally Posted by Stitchawl

...In fact, one evening we discovered that the neck of the Mateus bottle was just the right size to use as a 'guitar slide.' There were two of us who played drinking that evening and fortunately we did have two bottles! I still use the slide I made from that evening's gathering. It's served me well all these years!

I believe that the bottle's neck has been changed a bit over the years as I never hear of people using home made ones any more. Stitchawl

An amazing follow-up. As a guitar slide! How very resourceful and creative. But you could only have been this foresightful and clear-thinking after the contents of the green bottle had been consumed. Well done! Yes, the bottle neck has changed. I think it is more elongated, and it is no longer sealed with a cork. More and more we are seeing those darn threaded screw-caps. How very tacky!

[Stitchawl]

Helplessly hoping
Her harlequin hovers nearby
Awaiting a word
Gasping at glimpses
Of gentle true spirit
He runs, wishing he could fly
Only to trip at the sound of good-bye


Saturday morning and all is well. Keemun tea in my cup, humus, Kalamata olives and pita on my plate, and a song in my heart. Actually, the song I woke up with was "Marrakesh Express," which motivated the urge for humus, but then switched to "Helplessly Hoping" when I saw a photo of a young Bridget Bardot in a bikini...




Stitchawl