Unsure if I can come back - Page 27

MickeyC · 07-15-2010, 07:51 PM

KC everyone of us wish you the best!

We want you back!!!

GeoffC · 07-16-2010, 04:11 AM

WT Sharpe · 07-16-2010, 08:39 AM

We really do miss you around here.

Katti's Cat · 07-17-2010, 10:47 PM

Hello to all friends of Kat

I am terrible sorry we haven't kept you posted but lots has happened.

Kat has suffered several strokes in the last few weeks. Most of them were minor but one has left her partially paralised on the left side. This has led to a rather wobbly walk (she says: go like much beer seaman) and troubles with the fine motoric.

She still struggles greatly with the ability of logic and comprehension. She describes it as reading as if every word has a full stop behind it. And it takes her a long time to make sense. We are only using very small sentences with max 3-4 words. Very difficult without falling into baby talk I can tell you.

Her therapist has banned her from reading at this stage. It is frustrating her too much and has led to the onset of depression. She has started reading her favorite book which she must have read at least twice every year for the last 12. I found her crying over it because it didn't make sense to her and she couldn't follow the story. She started concentrating on getting better and filling her free time with crafting. That is not an option for her either due to the loss of the fine motoric.

The doctors are very confident that she will regain the movements and the brain functions (i.e. logic and comprehension) to pre-op levels. It just will take a lot of time and patience. Time she has - patience not so much.

I am not sure if she told you that she was looking for work as well prior to the op. She has since been offered a job that was perfect for her. And had to turn it down. I nearly had to lock her in as she was hell bend on going to the interview. But I was too worried that it would do more damage than good at this point in time.

My wife is an amazing woman. Despite the set-backs and even despite the onset of depression she is getting up every morning and starts a new day with the will to get better - and fast. She is doing the homework from the various therapy sessions over and over again. Ever day.

But it is not all bad. We still have laughs - lots of it. One of the first big laughs was after her cooking dinner. I had to help her re-write / write the recipes as she is currently unable to follow the instructions. And please understand that I cannot cook - I burn water if I get the chance.

Here is what we wrote for making mashed potatoes
Take 5 potatoes
Take peeler
Peel potatoes
Wash potatoes
Cut in small pieces
Put in pot (small silver)
Fill with cold water
Put on stove
Turn 2nd switch to 4
Add salt when boiling
Turn 2nd switch to 2
wait 5-7 minutes [we use kitchen timer, having 4 now for the various pots]
poke potato with knife
if soft = take off stove
turn off stove
pour potatoes in colander
potatoes back in pot
add butter (teaspoon)
add milk (1/3 cup)
add maze or nutmeg (1/3 teaspoon)
take masher and mash

First time she made mashies, she cut the potatoes in very small pieces (1cm and smaller). That off course led to a mash in the pot after the normal cooking time. We had a real good laugh and had bread that night for dinner. But this is a good example of her daily life now. There are notes and lists everywhere for things that come naturally to many of us (excluding cooking to me). And yet she still refuses to buy pre-made dinners or take-out. Although I am not a big fan either (prefering Kat's cooking) I would chew on anything if it makes her life easier. But no, she refuses and cooks. And yes, there are disasters and near disasters.

The one thing that worries us all is that she is refusing to talk to her family in German. So we do not know how much impact the surgery and effects had on her mother language.

Well, that is it for now. We are off to a walk in the nice sun we have here in Queensland. Kat will take her camera - at least she still enjoys that.

I apologise for being a tad lazy (it has earned me a hit on the back of my head from Kat). Please be patient. I am sure Kat will be back to this forum as soon as she can cope. We just don't know when that will be.

I have seen that many of you have written her a nice note - Thank you very much. It is appreciated and they have real positive impacts on Kat. Unfortunately all of her friends are working and she refuses to mingle with others with similar problems like her (she says: they make me cry and I will get good). I will get around to reading them to her in small pieces. You are all in her thoughts and she misses the forum.

Mr Kattiscat

DixieGal · 07-17-2010, 10:55 PM

Tell her that I miss her

kennyc · 07-17-2010, 11:07 PM

We miss her and wish the best for both of you! Double-triple-quadruple hugs!

Thank you for the follow up!

yvanleterrible · 07-17-2010, 11:09 PM

I wish I could say something positive... You write so well...I'm touched to the core...

She's a fighter, she will get over the depression.

WT Sharpe · 07-17-2010, 11:28 PM

So sorry to hear about the strokes, but glad to hear the doctors are confident that the motor skills and brain functions will return in time to pre-op levels. Thank you for taking such good care of her. It's good knowing that she's got you to rely on. And don't ever feel you owe any of us an apology for not posting more; we know you're both going through an incredibly difficult time. Thank you for thinking enough of us to write at all.

We're with both of you. One day at a time.

Poppa1956 · 07-17-2010, 11:34 PM

Mr. Katticat;
Please tell KattisCat I am very sad to hear of her trouble. I am also happy you find such joy together. My love, my prayers continue to you both.

SameOldStory · 07-17-2010, 11:52 PM

Thank you for making us VERY happy.

recluse · 07-18-2010, 12:09 AM

Mr. Katti's Cat,

Thank you for keeping us posted.
We all miss your lady very much.
It is obvious she is in the best of hands.
Love can move mountains.
Yours will bring your Katti back to you as she was before.
I know it is hard to share the private moments of one's life like this.
I thank you sincerely for keeping us informed.
Tell Katti recluse says hello.
My thoughts and prayers are with both of you.

kindlekitten · 07-18-2010, 12:46 AM

thank you very much Katti's MOTH. let her know that she was an intregal part of a very humorous story here at MR that involved many of us. she might get a kick out of you reading it to her!

beppe · 07-18-2010, 12:59 AM

Mr Kattiscat,
you are a wonderful man and the best possible medicine. With your tender care and with Katti's spirit you will win (and with the good doctors). Thank you so much for sharing with us your laughs together.
I hold both of you very close into my heart.
Beppe

PS Germany was the loveliest team to watch in the World Championship.

GeoffC · 07-18-2010, 04:27 AM

Remain positive, baby steps

Mr Kattiscat, take good care of yourself too ...... !!!!

pshrynk · 07-18-2010, 10:54 PM

You know, part of the problem may be that she's trying to relearn English as if it were German. Kind of hard to do when you put all the verbs at the end of the sentence... Does her speech therapist know she's a native German speaker? (Can't imagine s/he doesn't.)

07-17-2010, 10:47 PM	#394
Katti's Cat Wizard Posts: 2,259 Karma: 175640 Join Date: Nov 2009 Location: Brisbane Australia Device: Sony PRS-600	On behalf of my wife Hello to all friends of Kat I am terrible sorry we haven't kept you posted but lots has happened. Kat has suffered several strokes in the last few weeks. Most of them were minor but one has left her partially paralised on the left side. This has led to a rather wobbly walk (she says: go like much beer seaman) and troubles with the fine motoric. She still struggles greatly with the ability of logic and comprehension. She describes it as reading as if every word has a full stop behind it. And it takes her a long time to make sense. We are only using very small sentences with max 3-4 words. Very difficult without falling into baby talk I can tell you. Her therapist has banned her from reading at this stage. It is frustrating her too much and has led to the onset of depression. She has started reading her favorite book which she must have read at least twice every year for the last 12. I found her crying over it because it didn't make sense to her and she couldn't follow the story. She started concentrating on getting better and filling her free time with crafting. That is not an option for her either due to the loss of the fine motoric. The doctors are very confident that she will regain the movements and the brain functions (i.e. logic and comprehension) to pre-op levels. It just will take a lot of time and patience. Time she has - patience not so much. I am not sure if she told you that she was looking for work as well prior to the op. She has since been offered a job that was perfect for her. And had to turn it down. I nearly had to lock her in as she was hell bend on going to the interview. But I was too worried that it would do more damage than good at this point in time. My wife is an amazing woman. Despite the set-backs and even despite the onset of depression she is getting up every morning and starts a new day with the will to get better - and fast. She is doing the homework from the various therapy sessions over and over again. Ever day. But it is not all bad. We still have laughs - lots of it. One of the first big laughs was after her cooking dinner. I had to help her re-write / write the recipes as she is currently unable to follow the instructions. And please understand that I cannot cook - I burn water if I get the chance. Here is what we wrote for making mashed potatoes Take 5 potatoes Take peeler Peel potatoes Wash potatoes Cut in small pieces Put in pot (small silver) Fill with cold water Put on stove Turn 2nd switch to 4 Add salt when boiling Turn 2nd switch to 2 wait 5-7 minutes [we use kitchen timer, having 4 now for the various pots] poke potato with knife if soft = take off stove turn off stove pour potatoes in colander potatoes back in pot add butter (teaspoon) add milk (1/3 cup) add maze or nutmeg (1/3 teaspoon) take masher and mash First time she made mashies, she cut the potatoes in very small pieces (1cm and smaller). That off course led to a mash in the pot after the normal cooking time. We had a real good laugh and had bread that night for dinner. But this is a good example of her daily life now. There are notes and lists everywhere for things that come naturally to many of us (excluding cooking to me). And yet she still refuses to buy pre-made dinners or take-out. Although I am not a big fan either (prefering Kat's cooking) I would chew on anything if it makes her life easier. But no, she refuses and cooks. And yes, there are disasters and near disasters. The one thing that worries us all is that she is refusing to talk to her family in German. So we do not know how much impact the surgery and effects had on her mother language. Well, that is it for now. We are off to a walk in the nice sun we have here in Queensland. Kat will take her camera - at least she still enjoys that. I apologise for being a tad lazy (it has earned me a hit on the back of my head from Kat). Please be patient. I am sure Kat will be back to this forum as soon as she can cope. We just don't know when that will be. I have seen that many of you have written her a nice note - Thank you very much. It is appreciated and they have real positive impacts on Kat. Unfortunately all of her friends are working and she refuses to mingle with others with similar problems like her (she says: they make me cry and I will get good). I will get around to reading them to her in small pieces. You are all in her thoughts and she misses the forum. Mr Kattiscat

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07-15-2010, 07:51 PM	#391
MickeyC Grand Sorcerer Posts: 16,731 Karma: 12185114 Join Date: Nov 2007 Location: Florida Device: iPhone 6 plus, Sony T1, iPad 3	KC everyone of us wish you the best! We want you back!!!

07-16-2010, 04:11 AM	#392
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07-16-2010, 08:39 AM	#393
WT Sharpe Bah, humbug! Posts: 39,072 Karma: 157049943 Join Date: Jun 2009 Location: Chesapeake, VA, USA Device: Kindle Oasis, iPad Pro, & a Samsung Galaxy S9.	We really do miss you around here.

07-17-2010, 10:55 PM	#395
DixieGal Hi There! Posts: 7,473 Karma: 2930523 Join Date: Feb 2008 Location: Ft Lauderdale Device: iPad	Tell her that I miss her

07-17-2010, 11:07 PM	#396
kennyc The Dank Side of the Moon Posts: 35,918 Karma: 119747553 Join Date: Sep 2009 Location: Denver, CO Device: Kindle2; Kindle Fire	We miss her and wish the best for both of you! Double-triple-quadruple hugs! Thank you for the follow up!

07-17-2010, 11:09 PM	#397
yvanleterrible Reborn Paper User Posts: 8,616 Karma: 15446734 Join Date: May 2006 Location: Que Nada Device: iPhone8, iPad Air	I wish I could say something positive... You write so well...I'm touched to the core... She's a fighter, she will get over the depression.

07-17-2010, 11:28 PM	#398
WT Sharpe Bah, humbug! Posts: 39,072 Karma: 157049943 Join Date: Jun 2009 Location: Chesapeake, VA, USA Device: Kindle Oasis, iPad Pro, & a Samsung Galaxy S9.	So sorry to hear about the strokes, but glad to hear the doctors are confident that the motor skills and brain functions will return in time to pre-op levels. Thank you for taking such good care of her. It's good knowing that she's got you to rely on. And don't ever feel you owe any of us an apology for not posting more; we know you're both going through an incredibly difficult time. Thank you for thinking enough of us to write at all. We're with both of you. One day at a time.

07-17-2010, 11:34 PM	#399
Poppa1956 Evangelist Posts: 487 Karma: 344188 Join Date: May 2010 Location: Oregon, USA Device: Verizon Ellipsis Tablit w/Kindle and Nook apps.	Mr. Katticat; Please tell KattisCat I am very sad to hear of her trouble. I am also happy you find such joy together. My love, my prayers continue to you both.

07-17-2010, 11:52 PM	#400
SameOldStory My True Self Posts: 3,126 Karma: 66242098 Join Date: Apr 2010 Location: Trantor, Galactic Center Device: Galaxy Tab 2 7.0	Thank you for making us VERY happy.

07-18-2010, 12:09 AM	#401
recluse Banned Posts: 3,724 Karma: 535488 Join Date: Feb 2010 Location: the Mortuary Device: Kindle 2	Mr. Katti's Cat, Thank you for keeping us posted. We all miss your lady very much. It is obvious she is in the best of hands. Love can move mountains. Yours will bring your Katti back to you as she was before. I know it is hard to share the private moments of one's life like this. I thank you sincerely for keeping us informed. Tell Katti recluse says hello. My thoughts and prayers are with both of you.

07-18-2010, 12:46 AM	#402
kindlekitten Professional Adventuress Posts: 13,368 Karma: 50260224 Join Date: Sep 2009 Location: The Olympic Peninsula on the OTHER Washington! (the big green clean one on the west coast!) Device: Kindle, the original! Times Two! and gifting an International Kindle	thank you very much Katti's MOTH. let her know that she was an intregal part of a very humorous story here at MR that involved many of us. she might get a kick out of you reading it to her!

07-18-2010, 12:59 AM	#403
beppe Grand Sorcerer Posts: 5,161 Karma: 81026524 Join Date: Feb 2010 Location: Italy Device: Kindle3, Ipod4, IPad2	Mr Kattiscat, you are a wonderful man and the best possible medicine. With your tender care and with Katti's spirit you will win (and with the good doctors). Thank you so much for sharing with us your laughs together. I hold both of you very close into my heart. Beppe PS Germany was the loveliest team to watch in the World Championship.

07-18-2010, 04:27 AM	#404
GeoffC Chocolate Grasshopper ... Posts: 27,599 Karma: 20821184 Join Date: Mar 2008 Location: Scotland Device: Muse HD , Cybook Gen3 , Pocketbook 302 (Black) , Nexus 10: wife has PW	Remain positive, baby steps Mr Kattiscat, take good care of yourself too ...... !!!!

07-18-2010, 10:54 PM	#405
pshrynk Beepbeep n beebeep, yeah! Posts: 11,726 Karma: 8255450 Join Date: Apr 2008 Location: La Crosse, Wisconsin, aka America's IceBox Device: iThingie, KmkII, I miss Zelda!	You know, part of the problem may be that she's trying to relearn English as if it were German. Kind of hard to do when you put all the verbs at the end of the sentence... Does her speech therapist know she's a native German speaker? (Can't imagine s/he doesn't.)