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Originally Posted by dsvick
Wow, that certainly is bad, and was handled in about as poor a way as can be done. However, the "Usually this meant a screaming rant " makes it sound like there were other issues there as well. I'm not discounting the problem just saying that I don't think we can make a generalization on it without a fair amount of study.
It is all about providing the right example for them so they can see you doing the right thing.
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I'm not saying that this particular case is common, I pray to god its not and I don't believe it to be. However, it is something that I've heard more than once. I don't think that there should be generalization made here, I was attempting to make a point that this could happen more often if the other above issues were not addressed.
However, I think there is a mis-understanding as to what I meant to get across. I find this problem to be only in relationships, not every day things. Same friend as an example, had a boyfriend a little while back. This guy was good with people, he helped out, help carry things, gave rides, and so on. However, in the relationship things were a little bit different. He came into the relationship a little pushy on the physical side, tried to slide his hand down her pants on date 3, and when she tried to talk about her issues he blew her off because he "Didn't want to be so serious because dating is about having fun."
Now, before they were dating he and I were actually pretty good friends. It was a matter of him just wanting to "have fun". Now, I can't say for certain that this is the way that all guys are, I don't have that much experience, but it was definitely the prevalent mindset of guys in school, and unfortunately, in very many of the churches I've attended as well. I've seen very many complaints about this phenomena online as well. If this mindset is left unchecked it can definitely lead to the other problems as well.