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Originally Posted by Bilbo1967
Well sorry Zelda, but that just is not true - try being a relative newcomer to these forums and posting replies in a thread in the Lounge where several long-term members are interacting. True, you won't get any hostility, but it is almost certain that you will be totally and utterly ignored.
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Originally Posted by Seabound
It's possible to be a complete newcomer and be instantly in the favor of the MR clique. There is probably a typical forum "personality" type that is better suited than others to the MR forum, although what that online personality is is a mystery to me. This is probably true for all forums, and is probably already the subject of many online psychology/sociology studies. In any case, it's quite intriguing that "biases" occur even in online forums where we don't even see each other, and really don't even get to know each other at a very deep level.
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I must say that at the beginning, I too felt a bit intimidated by the established members whose names were frequently present in the Lounge and other threads. I had to push myself outside of my comfort zone and start making the comments that I felt were relavent to the discussion. It wasn't easy, but I am so glad that I did. I am thoroughly enjoying my membership in this, my first, forum. The general populace here are friendly and encouraging, even when your views don't always mesh with theirs. It is posters like Zelda, mjh215, Am, DixieGal, and so many others that make this a great place to spend some time. And of course, Alex, for making it all possible!
I had a great Principal who once told me to "take 24 hours" before responding to something that upsets or angers you. That way you can respond with thoughtfulness and reason. I try very hard to apply that very wise advise in my daily life (although, when you have kids, it is extremely hard to do sometimes
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Kaz
