[Lady Blue]

Originally Posted by slayda

Interestingly, I don't recall that my wife and I sat down and discussed a set of rules. I doubt that many others did either. However one rule (in the Christian marriage ceremony) was "till death do you part". I personally find it ironic that in the US, the morals seem to dictate monogamy but the way it is usually practiced by many is "serial monogamy", i.e. I'll dump this monogamous relationship and begin another. So a question is "How long should the monogamous relationship last and still be considered monogamous?" Could it be a short as a few hours? minutes?

So would you call divorce (for those "till death do us part" people) to be cheating?

Originally Posted by Stitchawl

Quite so! But I'll bet we who are in relationships ALL have an unwritten (read: undiscussed) set of rules we live by. We know when/if we've violated the trust our SO's have put on us. Unwritten contracts are still binding contracts.

Stitchawl

This is the SHORT version of my views on the subject:

I agree with slayda and Stitchawl. My spouse and I didn't discuss a set of rules either regarding cheating. I pretty much believe that if you feel it necessary to ponder whether you're cheating or not, you're already being unfaithful. That may sound simplistic to many, especially those who are liberal to the extreme (my view only) in their relationship, in which case I don't think they have much going for them in the first place.

Maybe this isn't the best analogy but you know the phrase: "if you have to ask how much, you probably can't afford it?" Well, I think "if you have to ask if it's cheating, it probably is."