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Originally Posted by DiapDealer
Same diff. You obviously can't hear yourselves. There is nothing to say after "you were a victim." NOTHING. Nothing that won't be unnecessary, condescending and insulting.
To insinuate that people need to be told not to put their head in a lions mouth is insulting. And to insinuate that people can lessen their chances of being assaulted, victimized, or bullied by avoiding your own definition of "risky situations" is ridiculous, and flies in the face of evidence to the contrary. Nine time out of ten, people aren't being victimized because they took what "you" deem to be unnecessary risks. They're being victimized because they got up in the morning and went about their day. So being told by anyone that they might have been able to lessen their chances of being victimized had they only had the wisdom to check in with "you" first about how their lives need to be adjusted to avoid jackwads in dark alleys is like pouring salt in their wounds. Especially when they were assaulted in broad daylight, in an upscale neighborhood, by someone they knew.
Do you guys really believe that bad things are primarily happening to good people because they didn't have the good sense not to wander off into the shadows with strangers?  |
I know that you always like to be right and get in the last word, but if you can't accept the idea that there are things that people can do to minimized their chances of being attacked, then I would suggest you actually do some research on the matter.
https://www.nbcnews.com/better/healt...get-ncna789226
This particular story is focused on women, but the basic rules of thumb - pay attention, project confidence, show that you are alert works for anyone.
There is a lot of research on the subject, especially by the police or criminologists. If you go to a police self defense seminar, that's pretty much what they are going to teach you with some specific pointers depending on the audience. Maybe you just don't want to believe it or think it's blaming the victim. If so, fine. That's your choice.