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EXCELLENT. That's good to hear. Of course, the no-vacuuming probably helps. ;-)
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She always did that on Saturday/Sunday. However, I can sleep longer since I'm not woken up by slamming door, alarms going off when she's in the shower and hair dryers.
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The dating sex site is, forgive me, hilarious. Hard to think of a BETTER example of wastrel spending whilst being his mother's guardian. He could probably argue that she said to him, "oh, [Uncle], go ahead and use my funds to pay for your insurance," but somehow, I can't see her telling him to use her money for a Tinder site, ya know? ;-)
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Before he was the guardian my grandmother had dementia to a degree that she wasn't able to make those types of decisions. He blames the funeral insurance on my father. It was a mistake and he was so distracted by my father's behavior (the court cases) that he hadn't noticed. Yeah, right.
It's funny how we found out about he sex sites. We noticed on the bank papers we did get that my uncle often paid €50 for something. He did that every day for a week and then for a while no payments and then again a bunch of €50 payments. We asked what that was, he didn't want to say, only said that that was part of his compensation for his guardianship. We jokingly guessed he used it to pay for sex websites, but it turned out to be even worse. We googled the payment platform he used and it's exclusively used for sex dating sites. We're pretty certain he wanted to hide it from his partner. A compensation is allowed, but you do that monthly, every three or six months or once a year. Not in €50 increments over a week.
As a side note: my mother checked my uncle's (very) public Facebook profile earlier this week and he has liked various ladies offering their services. How stupid can you get?!
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YES, this. I went through this the last year of my mother's life, thank GOD. It was a massive hassle, for a variety of reasons I won't discuss. It took us months to get things rewritten and addressed, to handle things that had changed over the passage of time, and to try to get over my mother's intense desire to dead-hand everything. We only finally got them done, witnessed and notarized a mere few weeks, really, before she abruptly died. (About...10 weeks, really, but in the cosmic scope of things....) Not only that, but we redid my grandmother's, too--that would have been bad, if it had been unchanged. Wills matter, ESPECIALLY when there are numerous possible devisees or heirs, and unclear intentions.
If you can't afford legal counsel, to go LegalZoom or some other site, get a simple will, and make your intentions dead clear. That's it.
Hitch
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I'm not sure what the legal requirements are in the Netherlands for a legally recognized will. And, yes, my sister and I can get on well. However, you never know what influence any future partners or events can have on that relationship. Better get it sorted out with a crystal clear will.