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Originally Posted by maianhvk
Really? I thought traveling together is the best way to improve a relationship... Can you be more specific? What pressure does it possibly give?
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Many different ways... Choice of foods to eat, how different people react to the cleanliness of toilets encountered along the way (ever been in a rural central Malaysia old fashioned bus station toilet?) late busses or trains, missing a scheduled train or bus, meeting unusual people, dealing with lost personal items, dealing with illness or danger, or simply dealing with choosing a hotel room... Everybody has different needs and desires, and many folks just can't be flexible.
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Does it only apply to the relationship between couples? Or is it true with friendship and other relationship also?
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Any and every. It could be just how one person deals with travel pressures, or it could be multiplied by the number of people traveling together.
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(Because I traveled several times with a friend, and once with my brother-in-law, everything was fine. Wonder if this "true test" only applies to love relationship.)
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I have a feeling that you are a very flexible individual. Coming from S.E. Asia you have grown up dealing with the need to be flexible. Many folks from the North America, Europe, and the like tend to be much more demanding that things go exactly as they wish them to go, especially when on vacations. That things be exactly what they expect them to be, at the same level of comfort that they experience at home. They forget that everybody's home might be different.
I remember a time waiting for a north-bound train at the Thai/Malaysia border... It was supposed to arrive at 7pm. It hadn't arrived by 9pm the Western people were all stamping their feet, getting more and more angry with each passing minute, demanding that the Station Master tell them exactly when the train was going to be there. The local folk waiting just spread sarongs on the ground, lied down and went to sleep. I was lucky... I had a sleeping bag pad to put under my sarong.
The more people in the group, the greater the chance for different needs and expectations. The greater the need to care for another's needs, the more difficult the situation.
If you ever have the opportunity to be a tour guide over a several day trip, you will really understand this problem. I've run into many people who simply 'refuse' to use an Asian 'squat toilet.' Refuse. For a while...
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