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Originally Posted by orlok
I understand what you are saying @beppe, but in my view any relationship based on deceit is probably doomed from the start. If these relationships are passing ones, that's fine, but if as @Stitchawl says, you meet the one you know is right for you, then you need to give that relationship every chance to succeed, and it must be based on honesty.
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I met the one that I knew to be the right one for me 7(seven) times. They all were actually. They all lasted, for a while at least. The shortest for 2 years, the most durable for 15 or so. Why they ended? Because there was no love tension in them anymore. And without it, I feel the bleak empty coldness of intergalactic void.
An other factor is who is the lover and who the beloved. It makes a lot of difference in the balance of strengths and vulnerability. I experienced both, and I prefer to be the lover, although being the beloved is very pleasant, but maybe more dangerous. The point is that when we spoil the heart of every defense, and we are totally honest and truthful, then we are planting the seeds for future pains and torments. Like if the girl in question tells to number two that she is seeing somebody else, but mostly for *cough* reasons. That will be accepted on the moment, but later his imagination will take over. No good. Silence is golden for things like that. Unfortunately, when we are overwhelmed by the power of a new love, we tend to start frm scratch and become what we always dreamed of ourselves, and there it goes the sharing of experiences. Ouch.