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Originally Posted by DixieGal
Want me to punch your family for you? NOBODY messes with my friends!
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Yes, but please don't tell them I knew about it.
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Originally Posted by wyndslash
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@monts: thank you  i'm not sure if my family is close. i mean, i could never be comfortable enough to tell them anything emotion-wise, because my family doesn't do that, or at least my parents don't. in the past when i tried, my mom just called me melodramatic, so i tend not to tell them stuff anymore xP and sometimes i think they don't know how to handle certain things, so they resort to threatening us instead. mom keeps doing that to me if she thinks i have a boyfriend or something, and it's really traumatic @_@ she gets all in your face and demand you cut off all ties or something. she made me do it when i was in grade school and i lost a potential friend ._.; |
Oh, no, I didn't mean confide in
them. That's feeding information to the enemy.
No, I only meant that confiding those visceral feelings with people or a person
outside of your family you felt close to and could trust (people who understood you were venting the extreme feelings while also implicitly needing someone to hear your thoughts and reasons...sometimes, just people who understood they were an ear, and not an answer) can be a good thing. Sometimes when you put things into words, a way forward arises. Sometimes when you put things into words you can see how silly or meaningless or trivial they are. Sometimes when you put things into words you can find the deep core of the problem. And sometimes you don't need to put things into words but just into one long AAARRRRGGGGHHHHH!!!! because it feels good (and an empathetic ear will AAARRRRGGGGHHHHH!!! along with you.
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Cheers,
Marc