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Originally Posted by desertgrandma
I apologize, Beppe.
Back to business.
Tho my advice is not asked for, I will give it anyway.
Stay away from forming personal relationships online.
As much fun as they may be, they aren't 'real'.
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That's an incredibly insulting thing to say to the people who have deeply meaningful relationships with limited or no face-to-face time.
Do you also claim that marriages where one spouse has been hospitalized aren't "real" anymore? Or that military personnel posted overseas shouldn't have personal relationships because they can't possibly be "real?"
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Heres the thing. In your lifetime, there is time to have fun, and time to be a parent and family. Its a stressful, daily grind, and not always fun.
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1) Not everyone intends to get married and raise children.
2) What has an obligation to care for family got to do with what kind of friendships a person has?
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Many times, its just a question of whats more important..... instant gratification now, or putting it off a little.
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You seem to be saying that online relationships are all about "fun," that there's no other point to them. That they don't provide emotional support, or work towards shared goals, or help each other out in times of need. That they are entirely individual, not connected to a person's family life. (My husband knows where I hang out online. I know where he hangs out. We have some mutual online friends, and some where we don't share any interests in common.)
I've met dozens of people whom I initially met online. None of them have been shockingly different from how they came across online. Very few have even been surprising; they came across online the same way they are in person--because most people are honest, most of the time. There are some scams and creeps out there, but they're very much in the minority.