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Originally Posted by DMcCunney
Nope. Just tell him that you understand about relationships being too stressful, and dealing with him is too stressful for you, so go away and stay that way.
He's not the problem. If I were in your position, my next step would be considering why I got involved with him in the first place, and how to avoid repeating that sort of mistake.
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It's not as simple as to tell him things straight- he's not the kind of person who would understand that. (Sometimes it happens: a friend of mine dumped her boyfriend and she was quite gentle until, apparently, he said something like "but it's just temporary, isn't it"- at that point she was quite enraged- I can remember a lenghty phone call
. There's none so deaf as he who will not hear.)
As for the repeating of the mistake, well, I think the mistake is called love, and you can't avoid it- there's always too little of that. On the other hand, what one can do is try to work it out, which is what I am used to do and apparently he isn't, which lead to lot of "fumbling with truth" on his side (= lying) and then a lot of badly-thought action afterwards.
On the hand of frequenting, well, he's
afraid of the Library where I usually go to work, because "there are people I hate there". (Well, the inmates aren't always the best, but the library is very good and I think it's a fantastic place to work into...) So I don't have that problem that much. The "staying friends" would meant for him- I suppose- go out together.
Yes, and asses will fly.
(The more I think about that, the more I think I'm better off without him :P)
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Originally Posted by recluse
Dear Juliette,
I am more than willing to visit the little jerk, hang him upside down and persecute the living daylights out of him.
With a baseball bat.
Just say when.
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Thank you
may I keep this promise as a bonus if he doesn't behave? *hugs*