Merry Christmas

[crich70]

Merry Christmas to everyone here at MobileRead.

[poohbear_nc]

Happiest of Holidays to all!

[Deskisamess]

Merry Christmas everyone!

[5thWiggleWife]

Merry Christmas!

[tubemonkey]

Merry Christmas

[astrangerhere]

Best staycation day ever for us who don't deal with family anymore

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[crich70]

Originally Posted by astrangerhere

Best staycation day ever for us who don't deal with family anymore

Depends on your point of view. Mom has been gone 9 months today (the 25th) and of Lisa's family only her dad remembered me for Christmas. I knew Lisa and her mom couldn't do much but on the 23rd we had a pizza party (me, Lisa, her 2 sisters and their mom) and though I remembered everyone (even her sister's dog) no one remembered me. Lisa's dad gave me a bag of pistachio's today when he was at the Manor but it's been a thin Christmas this year. A goodie bag from a friend at church, a gift from Monroe Manor (their party) and the nuts. Plus a small amount of Christmas cards. Lisa's family did remember me last year so I don't know what happened this year. Neither sister said anything about it.

[astrangerhere]

Originally Posted by crich70

Depends on your point of view. Mom has been gone 9 months today (the 25th) and of Lisa's family only her dad remembered me for Christmas. I knew Lisa and her mom couldn't do much but on the 23rd we had a pizza party (me, Lisa, her 2 sisters and their mom) and though I remembered everyone (even her sister's dog) no one remembered me. Lisa's dad gave me a bag of pistachio's today when he was at the Manor but it's been a thin Christmas this year. A goodie bag from a friend at church, a gift from Monroe Manor (their party) and the nuts. Plus a small amount of Christmas cards. Lisa's family did remember me last year so I don't know what happened this year. Neither sister said anything about it.

I dont deal with them because they dont acknowledge my wife as my wife or me as gay. This was a freeing choice for me, though l realize it isnt the same for everyone. I didn't lose family members that I loved, and it's awful for anyone who did. I wasnt intending to be flippant.

[crich70]

I didn't intend to indicate that I thought you were. This holiday season is a rough one for me what with mom's passing and recent events hurt. If I weren't engaged to Lisa or if we were only just starting to date it wouldn't have bothered me quite so much I think. I would have thought I'd at least have rated a Christmas card if not something (even as a token) though as a future brother-in-law.

[Sirtel]

Originally Posted by crich70

Depends on your point of view. Mom has been gone 9 months today (the 25th) and of Lisa's family only her dad remembered me for Christmas. I knew Lisa and her mom couldn't do much but on the 23rd we had a pizza party (me, Lisa, her 2 sisters and their mom) and though I remembered everyone (even her sister's dog) no one remembered me. Lisa's dad gave me a bag of pistachio's today when he was at the Manor but it's been a thin Christmas this year. A goodie bag from a friend at church, a gift from Monroe Manor (their party) and the nuts. Plus a small amount of Christmas cards. Lisa's family did remember me last year so I don't know what happened this year. Neither sister said anything about it.

That must hurt.

In our family we decided years ago to give Christmas presents only to children. Otherwise there would be 15 or so adults who should get them and most members of our family just don't have enough disposable income for that kind of splurging. Also no one really wants to get heaps of pointless things every year and afterwards rack their brains over where to keep them all. So it's the children, who are sincerely happy over their gifts. And the adults are happy because they don't have to worry whether their gifts were satisfying or not.

We gather at my sister's place every Christmas, she has a big house.

[trichobezoar]

Originally Posted by astrangerhere

I dont deal with them because they dont acknowledge my wife as my wife or me as gay. This was a freeing choice for me, though l realize it isnt the same for everyone. I didn't lose family members that I loved, and it's awful for anyone who did. I wasnt intending to be flippant.

I understand. My mother doesn't accept my homosexuality and my siblings don't accept me as I am--my level of honesty... I've removed myself from their lives. I'm better off now, much better off. I should've done this sooner, but I was too afraid of the unknown. It took hitting bottom for me to leave Texas and my family of origin. I'm keeping in touch with one sister...

It's still difficult, but it's better being true to myself and sincere than a people pleaser.

Happy New Year, y'all!

[crich70]

Originally Posted by Sirtel

That must hurt.

In our family we decided years ago to give Christmas presents only to children. Otherwise there would be 15 or so adults who should get them and most members of our family just don't have enough disposable income for that kind of splurging. Also no one really wants to get heaps of pointless things every year and afterwards rack their brains over where to keep them all. So it's the children, who are sincerely happy over their gifts. And the adults are happy because they don't have to worry whether their gifts were satisfying or not.

We gather at my sister's place every Christmas, she has a big house.

It did at the time. Turns out it was a mixture of misunderstandings about various things. I get you about the costs. It can add up quickly. I tried to limit myself to around $10.00 maximum per person for those I bought for this year as I have limited income as well. Part of that being that I'm still getting things sorted from my mom's passing on March 25th last year (2018). We split the bills between us and with her gone I have had to do some adjusting here and there.