Unfriending: Applies here (and other forums) as well

kennyc · 10-06-2010, 06:42 AM

ScienceDaily (Oct. 5, 2010) — With over 500 million users worldwide, Facebook has become a global phenomenon, a vast cyber neighborhood where friends meet to share photos, news and gossip. But when those relationships sour, another phenomenon often occurs -- unfriending.

In what may be the first comprehensive study of its kind, a University of Colorado Denver Business School student has revealed the top reasons for Facebook unfriending, who is unfriended and how they react to being unfriended.....

http://www.sciencedaily.com/releases...1005121822.htm

astrangerhere · 10-06-2010, 07:09 AM

I'm a corporate attorney, and I often deal with employment cases. I tell all my associates that if they have facebook, myspace or any other social networking program to terminate it. Immediately.

Why? Because one of my first harassment cases involved the plaintiff having her facebook (and all itenerant photos and drunk posts) dragged into court to show that what her boss did was in no way harassment, and merely a response to her ridiculous behavior (she had friended him on facebook).

Tis a cautionary tale, at least in my profession. And unfriending people doesnt erase your history with them. Until the law steps in and says that those things are off limits for evidence (which they never will), you won't catch me or my staff anywhere near it.

kennyc · 10-06-2010, 07:33 AM

I refuse to have a facebook or other social website. My exploits are too well known on the internet already.

I even question the Linkedin stuff a bit. It can be played the wrong way as well.

dsvick · 10-06-2010, 08:40 AM

Quote:

Originally Posted by kennyc

I refuse to have a facebook or other social website. My exploits are too well known on the internet already.

I even question the Linkedin stuff a bit. It can be played the wrong way as well.

I've got a linked in account but none of the others. I just don't see the point.

mrscoach · 10-06-2010, 09:52 AM

If I ever become a famous author (I'm not even writing a novel) I'll get a website and a facebook, but until then, no. Family are all on facebook and keep trying to get me to join. My hubby found a lot of his classmates he graduated with almost 30 years ago and tells me I could find people I used to know. If I wanted to find them, I would look. I detested 9/10 of my graduating class. Why would I want contact now?

astrangerhere · 10-06-2010, 10:00 AM

I am very much of the same opinion. In terms of most of the people who I went to school with or whatnot, I dont want to be found.

desertgrandma · 10-06-2010, 10:00 AM

I joined Facebook a year ago........and cancelled the account one week later.

I could not believe all the friends of friends of friends who wanted to be my 'friend'.

Not to mention the spam.

And truly.........I didn't care in the least what all these people were doing.

I'm sure they did care about what I was doing either.

The time wasted on there I'll never get back........of course.......here I am............

Steven Lyle Jordan · 10-06-2010, 10:17 AM

I'm just trying out Facebook (among other things), to see if I can generate some interest in the new site. However, I'm really out of the loop on effectively using social media, and I have no idea how much it will help me.

MJK2111 · 10-06-2010, 10:41 AM

Quote:

Originally Posted by kennyc

In what may be the first comprehensive study of its kind, a University of Colorado Denver Business School student has revealed the top reasons for Facebook unfriending, who is unfriended and how they react to being unfriended.....

I did a comprehensive study of my own, and determined that I just don't give a darn!
I frankly don't see the use for facebook and other websites of that ilk.

Bilbo1967 · 10-06-2010, 10:44 AM

Here's a true story from last week. All of our family went to Vancouver where my brother (Matthew) already lives for his wedding. One evening we all met at my brother's apartment and my sister borrowed his laptop to check her Facebook account.

"Ooh, I've got a message from Matthew", she said, "I'd better reply to it" and started typing furiously. Matthew was sat next to her at the time!

I didn't know whether to laugh or cry

rebarnmom · 10-06-2010, 12:32 PM

Quote:

Originally Posted by desertgrandma

I joined Facebook a year ago........and cancelled the account one week later.

I could not believe all the friends of friends of friends who wanted to be my 'friend'.

Not to mention the spam.

And truly.........I didn't care in the least what all these people were doing.

I'm sure they did care about what I was doing either.

The time wasted on there I'll never get back........of course.......here I am............

Your time here is NEVER WASTED! (IMHO)

rebarnmom · 10-06-2010, 12:38 PM

Quote:

Originally Posted by Bilbo1967

Here's a true story from last week. All of our family went to Vancouver where my brother (Matthew) already lives for his wedding. One evening we all met at my brother's apartment and my sister borrowed his laptop to check her Facebook account.

"Ooh, I've got a message from Matthew", she said, "I'd better reply to it" and started typing furiously. Matthew was sat next to her at the time!

I didn't know whether to laugh or cry

Sort of reminds me of that commercial where the girl is breaking up with boyfriend (or "unfriending") as they sit together in a booth in a restaurant. She tells him that she's changed her status to single or available, sends him a text and then calls him as she's sitting right across from him. I think it's a commercial for phone service.

lost66615 · 10-06-2010, 12:50 PM

facebook is good for keeping in touch with family that are abroad and dont see much off
work people never ever

mrscoach · 10-06-2010, 12:59 PM

Scenario: Daughter in her room, son in his room, hubby in livingroom.
(D) I sent you a message, Dad.
(H) OK, (S) I sent you one!
(S) Ok, I'll check.

All while hollering down the hallway, because of their closed bedroom doors! Why not just tell what the message was, instead of doing it online? It's not like any of them were currently injured at the time. (We've been through that, and cell phone texting and IMing came in handy).

I just rolled my eyes at them and told them they were crazy. But on the bright side, my family does enjoy communicating with each other. LOL Now that we live apart it is easy for my husband to keep up with what the kids are doing, when they update. They know he'll be on almost every night.

phenomshel · 10-06-2010, 02:09 PM

I never thought I'd be saying this, but... I had one Facebook account, when I was heavily involved in digital scrapbooking. One of the designers kind of talked me into it. I signed up with the nickname I used on the scrap boards; and never used the account. Terminated it a few months later.
Then Chris's family all got on it - got him to join - and I rejoined under my real name for that. A bunch of people from high school found me (Mrs. Coach, I detested over 9/10 of those I went to school with too, but apparently they either grew up or forgot...and added ME, not the other way around).
I have to admit as a source for news from my hometown, it's pretty dang good. I have the mayor and the editor of the local newspaper both on my list, so between those two and my cousin who still lives there; I keep up with births, deaths, and gossip better than I could without it.
I don't post anything related to work - most of my posts either are replying to someone, or about books (I have about 60 cozy mystery authors on my list- I realize most are there for the publicity and in effect therefore I'm being "used" ), but a few have become real friends, like Julie Hyzy and Jessica Park. I've also "met" people via author's profiles that share my addiction to the same kind of books, and I now count them as friends (not just Facebook friends).
I don't play the games, and I block most applications - but for what I use it for, Facebook actually works for me.

10-06-2010, 06:42 AM	#1
kennyc The Dank Side of the Moon Posts: 35,872 Karma: 118716293 Join Date: Sep 2009 Location: Denver, CO Device: Kindle2; Kindle Fire	Unfriending: Applies here (and other forums) as well ScienceDaily (Oct. 5, 2010) — With over 500 million users worldwide, Facebook has become a global phenomenon, a vast cyber neighborhood where friends meet to share photos, news and gossip. But when those relationships sour, another phenomenon often occurs -- unfriending. In what may be the first comprehensive study of its kind, a University of Colorado Denver Business School student has revealed the top reasons for Facebook unfriending, who is unfriended and how they react to being unfriended..... http://www.sciencedaily.com/releases...1005121822.htm

10-06-2010, 02:09 PM	#15
phenomshel ZCD BombShel Posts: 4,793 Karma: 8293322 Join Date: Jan 2009 Location: The Frozen North (aka Illinois, USA) Device: iPad, STB Kindle Oasis	I never thought I'd be saying this, but... I had one Facebook account, when I was heavily involved in digital scrapbooking. One of the designers kind of talked me into it. I signed up with the nickname I used on the scrap boards; and never used the account. Terminated it a few months later. Then Chris's family all got on it - got him to join - and I rejoined under my real name for that. A bunch of people from high school found me (Mrs. Coach, I detested over 9/10 of those I went to school with too, but apparently they either grew up or forgot...and added ME, not the other way around). I have to admit as a source for news from my hometown, it's pretty dang good. I have the mayor and the editor of the local newspaper both on my list, so between those two and my cousin who still lives there; I keep up with births, deaths, and gossip better than I could without it. I don't post anything related to work - most of my posts either are replying to someone, or about books (I have about 60 cozy mystery authors on my list- I realize most are there for the publicity and in effect therefore I'm being "used" ), but a few have become real friends, like Julie Hyzy and Jessica Park. I've also "met" people via author's profiles that share my addiction to the same kind of books, and I now count them as friends (not just Facebook friends). I don't play the games, and I block most applications - but for what I use it for, Facebook actually works for me. Last edited by phenomshel; 10-06-2010 at 02:16 PM. Reason: mistaken identity. Darn penguins.

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10-06-2010, 07:09 AM	#2
astrangerhere Professor of Law Posts: 3,639 Karma: 65526796 Join Date: Sep 2010 Location: Chapel Hill, NC Device: Kobo Elipsa, Kobo Libra H20, Kobo Aura One, KoboMini	I'm a corporate attorney, and I often deal with employment cases. I tell all my associates that if they have facebook, myspace or any other social networking program to terminate it. Immediately. Why? Because one of my first harassment cases involved the plaintiff having her facebook (and all itenerant photos and drunk posts) dragged into court to show that what her boss did was in no way harassment, and merely a response to her ridiculous behavior (she had friended him on facebook). Tis a cautionary tale, at least in my profession. And unfriending people doesnt erase your history with them. Until the law steps in and says that those things are off limits for evidence (which they never will), you won't catch me or my staff anywhere near it.

10-06-2010, 07:33 AM	#3
kennyc The Dank Side of the Moon Posts: 35,872 Karma: 118716293 Join Date: Sep 2009 Location: Denver, CO Device: Kindle2; Kindle Fire	I refuse to have a facebook or other social website. My exploits are too well known on the internet already. I even question the Linkedin stuff a bit. It can be played the wrong way as well.

10-06-2010, 09:52 AM	#5
mrscoach Guru Posts: 763 Karma: 4837659 Join Date: Aug 2009 Location: San Angelo Texas Device: Samsung Galaxy tab	If I ever become a famous author (I'm not even writing a novel) I'll get a website and a facebook, but until then, no. Family are all on facebook and keep trying to get me to join. My hubby found a lot of his classmates he graduated with almost 30 years ago and tells me I could find people I used to know. If I wanted to find them, I would look. I detested 9/10 of my graduating class. Why would I want contact now?

10-06-2010, 10:00 AM	#6
astrangerhere Professor of Law Posts: 3,639 Karma: 65526796 Join Date: Sep 2010 Location: Chapel Hill, NC Device: Kobo Elipsa, Kobo Libra H20, Kobo Aura One, KoboMini	I am very much of the same opinion. In terms of most of the people who I went to school with or whatnot, I dont want to be found.

10-06-2010, 10:00 AM	#7
desertgrandma Enjoying the show.... Posts: 14,270 Karma: 10462841 Join Date: Jun 2008 Location: Arizona Device: A K1, Kindle Paperwhite, an Ipod, IPad2, Iphone, an Ipad Mini & macAir	I joined Facebook a year ago........and cancelled the account one week later. I could not believe all the friends of friends of friends who wanted to be my 'friend'. Not to mention the spam. And truly.........I didn't care in the least what all these people were doing. I'm sure they did care about what I was doing either. The time wasted on there I'll never get back........of course.......here I am............

10-06-2010, 10:17 AM	#8
Steven Lyle Jordan Grand Sorcerer Posts: 8,478 Karma: 5171130 Join Date: Jan 2006 Device: none	I'm just trying out Facebook (among other things), to see if I can generate some interest in the new site. However, I'm really out of the loop on effectively using social media, and I have no idea how much it will help me.

10-06-2010, 10:44 AM	#10
Bilbo1967 Not scared! Posts: 13,424 Karma: 81011643 Join Date: Mar 2009 Location: Midlands, UK Device: Kindle Paperwhite 10, Huawei M5 10	Here's a true story from last week. All of our family went to Vancouver where my brother (Matthew) already lives for his wedding. One evening we all met at my brother's apartment and my sister borrowed his laptop to check her Facebook account. "Ooh, I've got a message from Matthew", she said, "I'd better reply to it" and started typing furiously. Matthew was sat next to her at the time! I didn't know whether to laugh or cry

10-06-2010, 12:50 PM	#13
lost66615 Enthusiast Posts: 38 Karma: 134 Join Date: Feb 2010 Location: ENGLAND Device: kindle dx	facebook is good for keeping in touch with family that are abroad and dont see much off work people never ever

10-06-2010, 12:59 PM	#14
mrscoach Guru Posts: 763 Karma: 4837659 Join Date: Aug 2009 Location: San Angelo Texas Device: Samsung Galaxy tab	Scenario: Daughter in her room, son in his room, hubby in livingroom. (D) I sent you a message, Dad. (H) OK, (S) I sent you one! (S) Ok, I'll check. All while hollering down the hallway, because of their closed bedroom doors! Why not just tell what the message was, instead of doing it online? It's not like any of them were currently injured at the time. (We've been through that, and cell phone texting and IMing came in handy). I just rolled my eyes at them and told them they were crazy. But on the bright side, my family does enjoy communicating with each other. LOL Now that we live apart it is easy for my husband to keep up with what the kids are doing, when they update. They know he'll be on almost every night.

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