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09-08-2012, 04:25 PM | #107 |
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The initial attractors are a no-brainer, but before I knew my husband I found that getting old after a while. Without sounding self-deprecating, neither my husband nor I are what each other would have 'seen across a room' and said "I want that one!". Although if you ask me, I think he is the handsomest person on earth just due to how much I love him (sorry for the mushy talk)
Eventually when I started considering getting serious and wanting a longer term settling down, I began to not really give a cr-p what the dude looked like - and sometimes only noticed how handsome someone was or not after I got to know them, the person. And here my husband and I are, 18 years after we first met, still very happy together. Mileage varies for preferences.- I think the reason I like romance novels is the opposite way the female/male leads seem to experience falling in love to my own experience. Step out of my own world into a different one. |
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09-08-2012, 04:33 PM | #108 | |
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09-08-2012, 05:11 PM | #109 | |
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09-08-2012, 07:46 PM | #110 |
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@ spindlegirl & voracious: I agree fully with both statements, my point was just, that is the, previously brought into discussion, inner valours aren't an option for first focus judgment (1st glance decision if contact should be tried at all), especially when; as the first post described only short term plans are involved.
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09-08-2012, 08:06 PM | #111 |
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If you find someone who is also a reader, then you always have some common ground for discussion and it's wonderful if you actually meet someone who shares your reading likes and dislikes.
I don't view it as shallow to be turned off by someone who doesn't have any books in their home, though I do think you might have been a bit hasty in your judgement and put a little too much emphasis on the book-owning and not enough on the person - especially since it wasn't a situation where you were making a lifetime commitment . What if he was dyslexic? I'm more concerned with the person having a sane and balanced worldview, and that can be obtained without being an avid reader of books. |
09-08-2012, 09:12 PM | #112 |
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If I was going to have a one night stand with someone, the last thing on my mind would be how well read they are.
In a long term relationship however.... [and for the record, my wife had to ship about 25 boxes of books to our place when we got married and she moved cross country] |
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09-09-2012, 10:26 AM | #114 |
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There is a fine line between being SMART and backing away when someone has a trait that you know you don't want in a partner (non-reader) and being so picky that you'll be single forever. I think you're still on the right side of that line.
I am married, but once in a while I think about what things would be deal-breakers if I met someone to date, and there are definitely some things that would turn me off to the point of not even wanting to start even a friendship up. What's the point? I know myself and know that those things are too important to me to ever let them go, and why would I want to start a relationship when I detect an issue that will cause me to be a dissatisfied NAG. No thanks! It's one thing if he prefers to read Sci Fi and non-fiction and you only read suspense and the classics (or something) ... that can be worked around. But to be like, "What's an ereader?" OMGosh, he lives in a hole! Haha! |
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I detest flowery words like in the title of this thread.
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09-09-2012, 11:18 AM | #116 |
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09-09-2012, 11:20 AM | #117 |
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I don't deplore non-readers. I nothing them. They are free to live their lives as they wish, and I will live mine. A person doesn't have to be a die-hard reader, but a house devoid of books is a pretty good indication of incompatibility.
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09-10-2012, 01:25 AM | #119 |
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a house devoid of books could also mean they use their e-readers avidly
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09-10-2012, 02:10 AM | #120 |
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