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08-07-2023, 12:53 PM | #16 |
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I'd agree if I only ever did things for pure enjoyment. But like most things I engage in, my reading is not done for enjoyment alone. Having said that, however, I rarely take part in reading challenges that are based on the number of books read in a certain period of time (like Goodreads' are). But not because they instill any undue sense of pressure, or duty. It's mainly because numbers don't interest me. Bulk is not a challenge to me. Setting goals or targets for myself (for many things I do in life) is how I avoid complacency and/or stagnation. Two things I fear far more than not enjoying myself.
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Complacency is not a danger for me, as I have several psychological disorders that rule out any feelings of complacency for ever. It's in fact impossible for me to feel complacent. Stagnation depends on how you define it. I don't feel like I constantly have to prove myself or achieve something; I value peace, quiet and stress-free life. Those are my only goals in life. I'm sure my life seems awfully stagnated to many other persons; but why should I care about that? I live my life for myself, not for others.
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08-07-2023, 02:27 PM | #18 |
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You're right. It does depend on how it's defined. I never would have dreamed that anyone would have defined stagnation as the other side of the coin from feeling like they constantly have to prove themselves (to themselves or anyone). Stagnation for me is never doing anything differently. Never changing, never growing, never reaching--never aspiring to feel something new. Stagnation for me is being content with the status quo, forever. I can't imagine a worse nightmare. Peace and a stress-free life is not at odds with avoiding stagnation. Unless you define peaceful as status quo.
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Anyway, my problem is I feel too much and too strongly, not too little. I am often not able to control my emotions in even the best of circumstances, and that's why I try to avoid stress and adrenaline at all costs. Emotional numbness is not something that'll ever happen to me; I'm too unstable for that. Contentment (be it with status quo or with life in general) is also something I feel very, very seldom. |
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You seem to be disagreeing with me and then agreeing with me.
Perhaps the difference is that while you seem to be willing to accept that change will always happen organically, I, on the other hand, seek to effect change (in myself). Not because I seek to feel pressured, or because I need to prove myself, but because for me, not seeking change is dying. So while I often read for pure enjoyment, it's not the only way (or the only reason) I read. I'll sleep when I'm dead. Until then, I'm going to seek out chaos and change. In my reading, and in all the activities that bring me satisfaction. Last edited by DiapDealer; 08-07-2023 at 03:20 PM. |
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This is why i disliked the Kobo reading awards. I read books because I want to read them. I don't need a virtual dog biscuit for my trouble.
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I would never seek out something I dislike. What would be the point? Rather, I often seek out something I have no idea whether I'm going to like or not. That's not the same thing. And if take a chance and don't like something, I have no qualms about dropping it like a hot potato. I'm not into self-torture at all. And again: I did not use the words "outside of my comfort zone". I said I'm open to the notion that my comfort zone may have expanded. Can you really not tell the difference between what I'm saying and what you're thinking I'm saying? Once again, you seem to have attributed to yourself, the exact same things I've said about myself. But with the aggravating habit of suggesting that I said something else. I'm pretty sure we're saying the exact same thing. I'm not "forcing" anything either. I think I just might "feel I want to do it" more often than you do. And since when is "when I feel I want to do it" not deliberate, anyway?? Last edited by DiapDealer; 08-07-2023 at 05:22 PM. |
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08-07-2023, 05:26 PM | #26 |
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The thing is, you say something, but the meaning you convey apparently comes across as something else than what you wanted to convey. I can't help that. Also you have an annoying habit to be condescending to people you converse with, and that puts the other party on the defense, which in turn makes real understanding impossible.
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That's a strawman, and assumes facts not in evidence. But whatever. I thought I was discussing things quite politely with someone who seemed oddly determined to deliberately misunderstand me. I didn't realize you were holding some grudge. At least that clears up why it seemed we were having two different conversations. |
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Interesting enough article.
The writer is correct social media can boost reading - as it does any hobby. As with her twitter reference, I do find the news and controversies interesting and have been able to interact with some favorite authors on there easily enough for general life updates, movies and music, it's enjoyable. Quote:
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