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Deskisamess · 09-20-2022, 04:48 PM

Lighting a candle for "Aunt Liz", who's name is actually Anita. She was married to my Uncle Richard, and had a difficult life, mostly because of him. After he died some years ago, she cut off any contact with remaining family, and I would see her sometimes in the grocery store, but she never acknowledged me.

Had she been a child today, I'm pretty sure she would have been diagnosed as having Asperger's, she was very socially awkward, and he was a tyrant to her and to their 2 boys, leaving the daughter be. Their son Erich is in this area still, I saw him 3-4 years ago, he calls my mom occasionally to check in. There has been no obituary published, and as far as I know, any service will just be the 2 sons, their daughter left Ohio when she turned 18 and never looked back. The sons are in their 50's.

issybird · 09-20-2022, 06:21 PM

Such a sad life. RIP, Aunt Liz, and comfort to your sons.

BetterRed · 09-23-2022, 08:43 AM

Hilary Mantel, celebrated author of Wolf Hall, dies aged 70

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Deskisamess · 05-03-2023, 12:09 PM

Lighting a candle for my husband's nephew Craig. He was 49, and passed away after what they think was a severe apnea episode. He leaves 2 grown kids, aged 26 & 21. He leaves behind a lot of guilt and frustration on the part of those who loved him. He had gotten his life together during the past 3 years, and his fiancé Jessica and her two teens are devastated.

He will be a donor of at least some of his organs. He is a perfect match for a man who has already lost one arm, and his other arm has serious problems. So Craig's left arm is going to be donated to this man. That process begins some time today. They still doing tests on the viability of his other organs.

RIP Craig, I'm glad you're no longer fighting all of those past demons.

issybird · 05-03-2023, 12:26 PM

I'm sorry. That's far too young. I hope you can take some comfort in knowing his organs will be life-changing for others.

cromag · 05-03-2023, 08:55 PM

Very sorry to hear about Craig. My thoughts are with his family and friends.

Hemmi · 08-13-2023, 07:14 PM

Lighting a candle for my childhood friend Eva. We may have drifted apart over the years but you were the first friend I made when I was 9 years old and just moved to a new state.

51 is way too young.

issybird · 08-13-2023, 07:32 PM

I'm sorry, Hemmi. 51 is absolutely way too young.

poohbear_nc · 08-13-2023, 08:03 PM

Sorry for you Hemmi - the earliest friendships are truly lifelong regardless of geography

cromag · 08-13-2023, 11:20 PM

Sorry to hear this, Hemmi. That is far, far too young.

pdurrant · 09-13-2023, 03:20 PM

My honorary Aunt Liz has died this afternoon

She was a friend of my parents from their university days, and was a frequent visitor at my parents home, and later when I married and had children, at my home.

Before Covid we saw her at least once a year, usually more, but she was showing some signs of mental decline before lockdown. However, she managed to stay in her own home until a fall earlier this year lead to a lengthy hospital stay, and then admission to a nursing home for dementia patients, as she was no longer able to care for herself, even with daily visitors.

We visited her twice at the nursing home, but I'm not sure she really knew me. She had regular visits from her friends who lived nearer.

I shall miss her.

issybird · 09-13-2023, 03:39 PM

I'm sorry. Honorary (and real) aunts play an important part in our lives.

poohbear_nc · 09-13-2023, 03:46 PM

Sorry to hear this - loss of any family member is painful.

DNSB · 09-13-2023, 09:28 PM

I'm sorry to hear of your loss.

cromag · 09-14-2023, 01:45 AM

I'm very sorry to hear this, pdurrant. My thoughts are with Aunt Liz's friends and relatives -- and those who were both.

09-13-2023, 03:20 PM	#2156
pdurrant The Grand Mouse 高貴的老鼠 Posts: 71,484 Karma: 305784726 Join Date: Jul 2007 Location: Norfolk, England Device: Kindle Voyage	My honorary Aunt Liz has died this afternoon She was a friend of my parents from their university days, and was a frequent visitor at my parents home, and later when I married and had children, at my home. Before Covid we saw her at least once a year, usually more, but she was showing some signs of mental decline before lockdown. However, she managed to stay in her own home until a fall earlier this year lead to a lengthy hospital stay, and then admission to a nursing home for dementia patients, as she was no longer able to care for herself, even with daily visitors. We visited her twice at the nursing home, but I'm not sure she really knew me. She had regular visits from her friends who lived nearer. I shall miss her. Last edited by pdurrant; 09-13-2023 at 04:39 PM.

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09-20-2022, 04:48 PM	#2146
Deskisamess Wizard Posts: 2,607 Karma: 42697471 Join Date: Sep 2012 Location: Ohio Device: iPhone 7+, iPad mini, 2021 iPad Pro 12.9",Paperwhite 6.8"	Lighting a candle for "Aunt Liz", who's name is actually Anita. She was married to my Uncle Richard, and had a difficult life, mostly because of him. After he died some years ago, she cut off any contact with remaining family, and I would see her sometimes in the grocery store, but she never acknowledged me. Had she been a child today, I'm pretty sure she would have been diagnosed as having Asperger's, she was very socially awkward, and he was a tyrant to her and to their 2 boys, leaving the daughter be. Their son Erich is in this area still, I saw him 3-4 years ago, he calls my mom occasionally to check in. There has been no obituary published, and as far as I know, any service will just be the 2 sons, their daughter left Ohio when she turned 18 and never looked back. The sons are in their 50's.

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issybird o saeclum infacetum Posts: 20,193 Karma: 222235366 Join Date: Oct 2010 Location: New England Device: H2O, Aura One, PW5	Such a sad life. RIP, Aunt Liz, and comfort to your sons.

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BetterRed null operator (he/him) Posts: 20,532 Karma: 26944418 Join Date: Mar 2012 Location: Sydney Australia Device: none	Hilary Mantel, celebrated author of Wolf Hall, dies aged 70 Very sad, love her writing.

05-03-2023, 12:09 PM	#2149
Deskisamess Wizard Posts: 2,607 Karma: 42697471 Join Date: Sep 2012 Location: Ohio Device: iPhone 7+, iPad mini, 2021 iPad Pro 12.9",Paperwhite 6.8"	Lighting a candle for my husband's nephew Craig. He was 49, and passed away after what they think was a severe apnea episode. He leaves 2 grown kids, aged 26 & 21. He leaves behind a lot of guilt and frustration on the part of those who loved him. He had gotten his life together during the past 3 years, and his fiancé Jessica and her two teens are devastated. He will be a donor of at least some of his organs. He is a perfect match for a man who has already lost one arm, and his other arm has serious problems. So Craig's left arm is going to be donated to this man. That process begins some time today. They still doing tests on the viability of his other organs. RIP Craig, I'm glad you're no longer fighting all of those past demons.

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issybird o saeclum infacetum Posts: 20,193 Karma: 222235366 Join Date: Oct 2010 Location: New England Device: H2O, Aura One, PW5	I'm sorry. That's far too young. I hope you can take some comfort in knowing his organs will be life-changing for others.

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cromag Surfin the alpha waves ~~ Posts: 24,268 Karma: 459220161 Join Date: Dec 2010 Location: New Jersey Device: Jetbook Lite & Mini, Nook STR, Kobo, Hanvon N516, Kindle 2, Androids	Very sorry to hear about Craig. My thoughts are with his family and friends.

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Hemmi Grand Sorcerer Posts: 9,342 Karma: 15987608 Join Date: Apr 2015 Device: Sonys, Nooks, Kobo Libra, Forma, Mini, Paperwhite	Lighting a candle for my childhood friend Eva. We may have drifted apart over the years but you were the first friend I made when I was 9 years old and just moved to a new state. 51 is way too young.

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issybird o saeclum infacetum Posts: 20,193 Karma: 222235366 Join Date: Oct 2010 Location: New England Device: H2O, Aura One, PW5	I'm sorry, Hemmi. 51 is absolutely way too young.

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poohbear_nc Now what? Posts: 58,777 Karma: 135181808 Join Date: Feb 2009 Location: Durham, NC Device: Every Kindle Ever Made & To Be Made!	Sorry for you Hemmi - the earliest friendships are truly lifelong regardless of geography

08-13-2023, 11:20 PM	#2155
cromag Surfin the alpha waves ~~ Posts: 24,268 Karma: 459220161 Join Date: Dec 2010 Location: New Jersey Device: Jetbook Lite & Mini, Nook STR, Kobo, Hanvon N516, Kindle 2, Androids	Sorry to hear this, Hemmi. That is far, far too young.

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09-13-2023, 03:39 PM	#2157
issybird o saeclum infacetum Posts: 20,193 Karma: 222235366 Join Date: Oct 2010 Location: New England Device: H2O, Aura One, PW5	I'm sorry. Honorary (and real) aunts play an important part in our lives.

09-13-2023, 03:46 PM	#2158
poohbear_nc Now what? Posts: 58,777 Karma: 135181808 Join Date: Feb 2009 Location: Durham, NC Device: Every Kindle Ever Made & To Be Made!	Sorry to hear this - loss of any family member is painful.

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DNSB Bibliophagist Posts: 35,219 Karma: 145277352 Join Date: Jul 2010 Location: Vancouver Device: Kobo Sage, Forma, Clara HD, Lenovo M8 FHD, Paperwhite 4, Tolino epos	I'm sorry to hear of your loss.

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cromag Surfin the alpha waves ~~ Posts: 24,268 Karma: 459220161 Join Date: Dec 2010 Location: New Jersey Device: Jetbook Lite & Mini, Nook STR, Kobo, Hanvon N516, Kindle 2, Androids	I'm very sorry to hear this, pdurrant. My thoughts are with Aunt Liz's friends and relatives -- and those who were both.