The Vent and Rant Thread

[BetterRed]

You know you're getting old when most of the people dying around you are younger than you are.

[Deskisamess]

Family, especially siblings. Our 94 year old mother took a spill the Tuesday before Thanksgiving, spent 3 days in the hospital, and has been in a rehab facility since then. Nothing broken, just weak and dehydrated, and regular meals and meds have helped her a great deal. She still lives on her own. This was her first stay in the hospital except for having 4 kids. (Older brother died in 2011 at 56)

I've done the bulk of her driving for 7 years, even before she stopped driving. I've taken her to doctor appointments, the grocery, etc. Since she gave up driving 4 years ago, she only gets out of the apartment if I take her, which we try for once per week.

My sister moved 600 miles away after her husband died 3 years ago, and our younger brother is still working full time. He is 60, I'm 65, sister is 68.

I'm tired. My sister "can't stand being in this town." She "can't handle taking mom to the store." She thinks what her 2 girls do, visiting when they can, is enough. They both work full time, one has a 10 year old also. They are great but it's not their responsibility.

We've spent the past 2 weeks trying to get repairs done at the apartment, management has been great fortunately, but today is the day. We are waiting for the final work to be completed, mom expects to go home today.

I've kept a steady stream of texts going out to everyone. I get crickets from my sister. This slow burn is threatening to blow. I can't do that in front of my mom, who btw, never complains about anything.

Just venting, since my husband doesn't need to hear it again. He is amazing, making phone calls, keeping everything organized and moving. All while he waits for back surgery and deals with horrible pain.

Rant mostly over.

[ownedbycats]

Dropping an open pill bottle.

[CRussel]

@Deskisamess: I feel your pain. As a primary care provider, I know just how old it can get. OTOH, what you are doing is a major mitzvah, and you should take a moment to appreciate yourself. And I'll take a moment to appreciate you as well. Thank you.

[ownedbycats]

The Ontarians sunk Theodore Tugboat.

[PeterT]

Originally Posted by ownedbycats

The Ontarians sunk Theodore Tugboat.

There must be a way to blame either Doug Ford or Justin Trudeau

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[CRussel]

Originally Posted by ownedbycats

The Ontarians sunk Theodore Tugboat.

Good news is that the owner says plans are already underway to refloat it.

[BetterRed]

@Deskisamess - your Mum sounds amazing, you too… here's a few virtual hugs for you to share.



BR

[BetterRed]

Originally Posted by PeterT

There must be a way to blame either Doug Ford or Justin Trudeau

Elect the other guy as governor

BR

[PeterT]

Hey... We're not the 51st state! (Guess we'd better stop before we get moved to P&R)

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[ownedbycats]

People blocking grocery store aisles to talk makes me tempted to just bowl the shopping cart through them.

[Renate]

Originally Posted by ownedbycats

People blocking grocery store aisles to talk makes me tempted to just bowl the shopping cart through them.

People with shopping carts. If I have a lot, I use a shopping basket. If they don't have them (because they all get stolen) I just find a cardboard box on a shelf.

[Sirtel]

I always use a cart. Why should I want to tote a heavy basket around? A cart is much more comfortable.

[Hitch]

Originally Posted by Sirtel

I always use a cart. Why should I want to tote a heavy basket around? A cart is much more comfortable.

I've been a cart person ever since my great Fall Down Go Boom episode in October; I escaped from, er, left the physical rehab joint near the third or fourth week in October and then used a walker for a while (in my home) and then a cane, which afforded me some mobility. I still have the cane now, but one of the nice things about CARTS is that once you get into a store, you can lean on the cart instead of the cane, LOL.

On the other hand, you still gotta get INTO the store and if you're me, you return the cart after, always so...you're still stuck carting (ha!) the stupid cane around to some extent anyway.

I guess that was a crappy tip.

Hitch

[Renate]

I'm like a Yankee clipper scooting around those moribund fourmasters. In and out in 5 minutes.