Ten Surprising Things...

[beppe]

some times an image is worth many words.
It might be different according to gender.
I do not have much experience with women getting old.

[astra]

Originally Posted by beppe

Ashes to ashes

[Mortis]

Originally Posted by Poppaea

As for not being jugdemental: My mom refuses to grow old, she was an unearthly beauty once and loosing her looks made her weird. It started about the time when she was 40 and got more virulent yearly. When she was 50 it was so nervwrecking my granny once said to her in front of me and my best friend on a Sunday Lunch: "If you proceed by getting younger everytime I see you this rapidly, I'll soon be able to have you aborted!"

And my gran was neither rude nor did she talk about "bodyly" things!!! It was desperate annoyance speaking through her.

A couple of month my mom was talking about herself (favourite topic, as you will have guessed) in a way that made me wonder and I asked of her how old she is. I got her unguarded and the answer was: "40!"

Given the fact I am 47 and her real life is 71 this was a very strange moment.

OTH nothing could have told my more about growing old, a knowledge that seems to make it quite easy for me. What I've learned is: You have to make sure people have other reasons to want to be with you than your looks. Those who are fun, make interesting conversation and are witty never fear to loose their looks and most often hadn't any worth mentioning from the start. So all there is about growing old is to try to be beautiful instead of looking beautiful.

My apologies, I quoted Bepee when I meant to quote Poppaea. Please forgive this humble servants misquote and please allow me to flog myself s required

[Poppaea]

Originally Posted by Mortis

My apologies, I quoted Bepee when I meant to quote Poppaea. Please forgive this humble servants misquote and please allow me to flog myself s required

NO, you are not allowed to indulge yourself and self-flog today! Your punishment will be to longingly look at your whip and not to touch it or yourself (bur for washing and dressing/undressing purposes)for the next two days!

[beppe]

Originally Posted by Poppaea

NO, you are not allowed to indulge yourself and self-flog today! Your punishment will be to longingly look at your whip and not to touch it or yourself (bur for washing and dressing/undressing purposes)for the next two days!

Not even the reflections in a mirror or the shadows on a wall?

[Poppaea]

Originally Posted by beppe

Not even the reflections in a mirror or the shadows on a wall?

Nope! Too bad he didn't out himself to be a narcissist, in that case he would have been allowed to touch his refection in the mirror

[beppe]

and enjoy his shadow, in the proper perspective?

[Mortis]

What's the polar opposite of a narcissist? I think I may be that.

Bepee my friend, don't think about it to hard, you may find the revelation to be to much for you

Poppaea, madam if you keep putting these naughty thoughts into my head I will be forced to begine messaging you again

[Poppaea]

Originally Posted by Mortis

What's the polar opposite of a narcissist? I think I may be that.

A submissive

Originally Posted by Mortis

Poppaea, madam if you keep putting these naughty thoughts into my head I will be forced to begine messaging you again

[Freeshadow]

Originally Posted by Poppaea

You have to make sure people have other reasons to want to be with you than your looks. Those who are fun, make interesting conversation and are witty never fear to loose their looks and most often hadn't any worth mentioning from the start.

Oh, thanks - I knew you haven't forgotten me

Originally Posted by Mortis

Poppaea, madam if you keep putting these naughty thoughts into my head I will be forced to begine messaging you again

Methinks she won't stop until she converts half of the male MobRreaders (me included) into using Dvorak keyboard layout (makes typing single handed easier)

[orlok]

Originally Posted by Mortis

Poppaea, madam if you keep putting these naughty thoughts into my head I will be forced to begine messaging you again

Is that messaging or massaging

[Freeshadow]

@orlok if its done via SMS while the cell is on vibration alert it's pretty much the same

[beppe]

Originally Posted by Mortis

Bepee my friend, don't think about it to hard, you may find the revelation to be to much for you

too hard? ohhh.
too much for me? that's for sure, even just a tiny bit would be too much for me. I get the chills. No, I am not interested.

Not even trough a shadow. Let's just be friend, ok? I mean friends in friendship. you do your things, the way you like them. I do my things, my way. Better, my ways. And, if we feel like, we can share notes. Discretely, no names, no circumstances. They do it all the time.

I'd say the polar opposite of narcissism would be self-loathing or maybe even depression or insecurity, but self-loathing would be the most accurate of those 3. If you didn't say a sense of hating oneself, I'd say that humility would be a sufficient antonym,.

Copied and pasted from a blog.

My first mother in law was narcisistic. A riot.

[beppe]

Originally Posted by Poppaea

Those who are fun, make interesting conversation and are witty never fear to loose their looks and most often hadn't any worth mentioning from the start.

sure, of course, but witty person can be enjoyed on the telephone or on internet. So much the better, for everybody. It is a very fair encouragement for everybody to reach his/her potential.

But. When I catch that regard, that hand that caresses me, when I see the flaring of those hips and that light in the eyes, than I start to tremble and my throat goes dry, looks play a part, mine and hers. So let's keep looks at the point.

Thank you mama, thank you dad. I will keep using the creams. And do those exercises.

In fact, I am so accustomed to my good looks that loosing them, with age or for whatever reason makes me quite nervous.

[Roger Parkinson]

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Originally Posted by beppe

A couple of month my mom was talking about herself (favourite topic, as you will have guessed) in a way that made me wonder and I asked of her how old she is. I got her unguarded and the answer was: "40!"

I've been 36 for years now
It isn't so much a looks thing as a mindset thing.
If I keep thinking I'm 36 I'll keep doing things I feel appropriate to that age, it sort of works but some of the more recent aches and pains take a little more convincing to go away. But I'm lucky enough so have all my hair, some of my contemporaries don't. This is one reason I keep it long. 'cos I can.

I guess I'll need to turn 37 one of these years, though.