Who pays after the first date if both make about the same money?

[Sweetpea]

Originally Posted by HarryT

I'm not at all sure that Belgium actually exists. What sort of a "real" country has a fictional character as its most famous citizen?

Harry, Belgium doesn't exist: http://zapatopi.net/belgium/

[yvanleterrible]

Originally Posted by HarryT

I'm not at all sure that Belgium actually exists. What sort of a "real" country has a fictional character as its most famous citizen?

Not just one. There's an other that pee's all day. Definitely an ode to their fine beers...

[HarryT]

Originally Posted by Sweetpea

Harry, Belgium doesn't exist: http://zapatopi.net/belgium/

I knew it! Thank you for confirming my suspicions .

[Sweetpea]

You got me thinking about our "most famous" person: The boy who put his finger in the dike... Turns out, he's made up by an American author... Just downloaded the book, now I need to put it on my reader and read the story

[JSWolf]

Originally Posted by desertgrandma

Are you youngsters STILL arguing about this?

I remember the same discussions back in the 70's......

Personally, if a man invites me out for a meal, he can pay.

(and for my husband, too! )

So if you were to start a meet-up, then you pay for everyone who shows up? OOOHHHH!! I like that idea.

[Jill74]

Originally Posted by krisk

whoever does the inviting

yes. I agree with you krisk!

[Daithi]

I was raised that the man pays, and it makes me feel uncomfortable not to pay. I like it when a girl offers to pay, but I feel paying for a date is my responsibility. I've had girlfriends that have paid for a date when they have invited me, and although I always accepted graciously, I'd still prefer to pay.

I probably paid for 9 out of 10 dates with the last girl I was dating. However, she cooked 9 out 10 meals that we had at home. (I don't cook very well, unless you want tacos.)

[HarryT]

Originally Posted by Daithi

I was raised that the man pays, and it makes me feel uncomfortable not to pay. I like it when a girl offers to pay, but I feel paying for a date is my responsibility. I've had girlfriends that have paid for a date when they have invited me, and although I always accepted graciously, I'd still prefer to pay.

Their was a logical reason for men to pay for dates when the normal situation was that men worked, but women didn't. Now that women are just as likely to work as men, for it to be assumed that the man will pay seems to me to be nothing other than a form of sexism.

[yvanleterrible]

Originally Posted by HarryT

Their was a logical reason for men to pay for dates when the normal situation was that men worked, but women didn't. Now that women are just as likely to work as men, for it to be assumed that the man will pay seems to me to be nothing other than a form of sexism.

I totally agree.

[Daithi]

Originally Posted by HarryT

Their was a logical reason for men to pay for dates when the normal situation was that men worked, but women didn't. Now that women are just as likely to work as men, for it to be assumed that the man will pay seems to me to be nothing other than a form of sexism.

Maybe it is, but for better or worse it's the way I feel, and the way I was raised -- by my strong willed mother.

I still open doors for women even though I know they are perfectly capable of doing it themselves. When walking along the sidewalk I take the side closest to road so that I'll get splashed or ran over first. When on public transportation I will still give my seat up to a lady. If I were on a sinking ship I'd let the women and children go first. I suppose this makes me a sexist.

Don't care.

[Jaime_Astorga]

Originally Posted by yvanleterrible

I totally agree.

Thirded. I find it interesting that whereas racism seems to have become un-PC and shifted away from the mainstream, sexism and gender segregation seem to be alive and well today.

[krisk]

Originally Posted by Jaime_Astorga

Thirded. I find it interesting that whereas racism seems to have become un-PC and shifted away from the mainstream, sexism and gender segregation seem to be well and alive today.

whoooo boy! as a female in a non traditional job I gotta tell ya'! it is alive and kicking!

[Angst]

Whoever picks the restaurant pays.

And if she's a vegetarian, I'm pickin' BBQ!

[LazyScot]

Originally Posted by Ralph Sir Edward

Gee, a family tiff. It's so cute...at 4000 KM away....

(Remember the revised Boomer Motto - Don't trust anyone under 30...)

(And happy 2000th post for me!)

What have you got against the UK? Anyway, isn't about half of Texas under 30. Degrees North that is.

(Oh, congratulations)

Originally Posted by RickyMaveety

Around here, people are forever trying to set me up on dates. Most of the time it's with someone who is worth a bazillion dollars, but has less than zero personality. I'll take a good personality over money any time hands down.

If that was universal, I wonder what that would do to the human population, and the restaurant trade (not necessarily in that order)? And why is a scene in The Grand Ticino from Moonstruck going through my mind.