04-14-2009, 03:07 PM | #46 |
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It seems to me that many people on the internet do not change their viewpoints, anyway, which seems to echo what pilotbob is driving at. And, when opinions don't shift, anger seems to rear its head. That's when patience runs out and name-calling enters.
Interestingly, absent from this thread are a few names that I readily associate as being in the name-calling category. Also, (and again, interestingly, I might add), I wonder what those absent participants think of a thread such as this? Interesting speculation, but I don't know if we can really learn anything from it. I just don't know. I'm wondering: Do narcissistic people know they're a pain-in-the-ass and that they are disagreeable personalities? Don |
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And then there are the threads that seemingly spring into being already 4 or 5 pages long and as a slow reading country boy is laboriously making his plodding way through them, he sees opinions on which he would like to comment only to have the thread's subject veer off two or three times before he gets to the end of the thread.
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When I think of a "brilliant response" I just go ahead and throw it out there, never mind that the subject's changed four or five times. That really gets wierd on those two or three thousand post threads! |
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04-14-2009, 05:42 PM | #50 |
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When people feel passionately about a topic, many times their posts are more abrupt than I am sure they mean them to be. Although, since we are typing our responses, abruptness could just be the result of our typing skills!
I know that when I am commenting about something near and dear to my heart my opinion is going to be much stronger than a topic in which I might only have a passing interest. I may still want to participate in the discussion but the strength of my convictions will be considerably less. I know that when posters who have never lived in the USA feel that they can negatively comment on our lifestyles or our politics, I take exception. Good or bad, it's my country and I am proud of it, so if someone belittles the life I have here my posts are likely to reflect my frustration with the comments that were made. In the same vain, it would be wrong for me to post something negative about the UK as I have only a "textbook knowledge" of life there. That's not to say that anyone should be rude. Even at my most frustrated, I try to post with a clear head and think things through before I submit my post. Rudeness is completely counterproductive. For instance, Simon Cowell's Idol comments would be so much more helpful (and excepted) if he toned down the attitude. The contestants might come away with knowledge that could help them with their singing, even if they are voted out of the competition. In the same vain, if you want to get a point across, a well thought out position is going to be much more accepted than a comment liberally sprinkled with offensive language, no matter how many letters are "*" out. I've said it before and I'll say it again, all we need to do is apply a little common courtesy and a respect for other peoples opinions. Kaz |
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04-14-2009, 08:15 PM | #53 | |
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My life also gets in the way of the timeliness of my posts. Especially, when my 8 year old daughter sees someone's avatar that she likes and makes me go back through the thread to show her other avatars! She loves to look at all the ones containing animals. She was particulary enraptured with the pirate guinea pig and the chihuahuas!! By the way, Lady Blue, I have always enjoyed the wit of your posts and never noticed a lack of timeliness. |
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Upon reflection, being several days later, I've decided to go ahead and post my thoughts anyway. It's just as acceptable to post like-minded views as well as opposing ones I believe. The following is a partial quote of my own words taken from a PM between myself and an individual whom I will not name, and I will alter (or add to) the original wording as necessary to keep that privacy in tact. We had this PM exchange several days before Dr. Drib started this thread and I feel compelled to repeat it here. I had initially contemplated starting a thread myself with these same thoughts in mind but Dr. Drib beat me to it. (Kudos Don) . . . and as such I'm sure you'll agree . . . that the manner in which you post a remark and the words you choose to use, makes all the difference in the perception and understanding of what's being said. If I misunderstand the intent of a poster's words, I do apologize. I can not hear the inflection in their voice, see the expression on their face, the posture of their body, or telepathically read their mind for intent. All I can do is read their written words and judge from that evidence what their meaning is. . . . when words such as "all" and "every" rather than "many" and "some" are used in making a statement, there is bound to be a strong reaction of some sort, even if it's not volitile. The reader is bound to react vigorously simply because of the "absolutes" implied in such statements. Isn't this "absolute" wording as inflamatory as saying "all blacks are stupid," "all Indians are savages," "all Mexicans are thieves," and "all Pit Bulls are killers?" I would assume that most, if not all, of us on this forum are literate. That's why we're here, because we love to read. We have a certain respect for, and understanding of the written word. I can only speak for myself, but I tend to take the written word used in commentary literally, since there are no visual or audible cues to add subtle nuances to the meaning. Conversely, a poster who is careful to utilize conditional words and state personal views or experiences rather than absolutes, is very often called to task and attacked for comments that were only perceived to be made, and not actually made. I believe that the tone of any thread begins with the original poster of that thread. If the OP takes care to review their words as well as their thoughts and overall context of the post, and takes additional care not to incite the readers from the get-go, the thread has a damn good chance of maintaining civility and ensuring success in the exchange of ideas instead of arguments. I also think it's important for each reader to re-read a post if necessary to refrain from a possible hostile knee-jerk reaction to something they simply misunderstood. I think this is especially true in a world wide forum such as MR where language and syntax doesn't always translate well. Sometimes we're in such a hurry to respond quickly to a post that it backfires and needlessly ignites tempers and an ineffectual heated exchange ensues. We should probably all slow down just a bit. We're not speed reading through a novel here. We're dealing with real people who have ideas, opinions and emotions. And disagree as we often will, it seems a waste of time and energy (and a real risk of alienating good friends) to damn the torpedoes, full speed ahead without taking a deep breath first. It takes twice as long to explain what you really meant as it would to state it carefully in the first place. I'm sure we'll still sometimes be misunderstood but to a much lesser degree and maybe with less severity than otherwise would be the case. But that's just me . . . |
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In the same vein, I wouldn't be able to state any negative opinion about religion because I am not religious myself so I don't exactly have insider knowledge. But what if I had negative opinions on religion? Shouldn't I be allowed to express them? BTW, I'm not talking about comments along the line of "you're stupid" - that *is* frustrating - but comments put together with some thought behind them. |
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04-15-2009, 08:57 AM | #56 | |
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I can only (and do only) speak for myself when I say I don't like to speak negatively on things I know little about. I've noticed many times that people who take a negative position, particularly about the USA, do so based on a very wide and general knowledge of the topic. Often, this lack of intimate knowledge forges an opinion that could be taken as offensive to the people who do have that knowledge. I know that I am a bit sensitive when Non-Americans discuss my country in a derogatory way based on a "snapshot" of what they see. I have not and will not comment publicly on the election process in places like Great Britain and France simply because I do not live there and know little about the problems facing the residents on a daily basis. Yet people from all over the globe took an active and, at times, vitriolic role in our last presidential election. That's not to say that I don't have an opinion about "global" matters. My family and friends can attest to the fact that I am very passionate in my opinions. I just don't discuss them publicly or attach absolutes to them as discussed by Lady Blue in her post. However, I will admit that using a VERY touchy topic as my country probably wasn't the best choice to make my point about rudeness. But to your original question about rudeness; no, I don't think it is rude to take a negative position. Taking one side or another on a topic is simply a choice. I personally prefer to speak on subjects I have a solid knowledge base from which to pull, particularly in an intellectual setting such as this forum and particularly when I am taking the negative viewpoint. Kaz |
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With the very greatest respect, Kaz, what the president of the United States does can - and often does - have an impact way beyond the borders of the US, so I think that those of us in other countries are entitled to have (and express) opinions on the US elections. It has far more effect on me who the president of the United States is than it affects you who the British prime minister is.
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That is always a danger, and it is up to individuals to look further than what the media tries to spoon-feed us, to get the truth. One of the values of forums like this is to bring different sources of information together, which can help an individual see all sides, and make a more informed decision about a topic. |
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I know what it can be like when you hear/see what the press in other countries write about your country, and what other says, but not everyone belives everything the press tells them. USA is also so big and makes so much 'noise' on the world scene that it would be expected. It goes the other way, too. I have seen some odd things said/written about Denmark, but usually I just shrug it off - it's not worth the effort (though, given the size of my country, I should probably be grateful they have heard of it at all ) |
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