50 Shades of Grey sex classes

[Prestidigitweeze]

Dear Diary:

Today, I wrote a rather anecdotal post on a thread about a book I can't bring myself to read. Note to self: Having experience with one aspect of a topic doesn't make one's conclusions pertinent to the discussion.

I deleted the post, of course. Then, Greek poetry.

[ScalyFreak]

Originally Posted by ATDrake

Well, as long as they eventually get the idea that everything's really supposed to be done for the submissive's pleasure, within their comfort zone,

Originally Posted by Piper_

Hmm, I'd prolly re-word that as "for the Dom's pleasure, within the sub's comfort zone,"

Personally, I prefer "for mutual pleasure, within both our comfort zones", but that's just me.

Originally Posted by Piper_

So true. I think it's why I suffered through the bad writing in FSoG. lol It's just so hard to find D/s (or *gasp* DD) books that don't have the bolded parts.

It is? I must have been very lucky then.

Tangent here: You might enjoy the Nature of Desire series, by Joey W Hill. I've only read the first three yet, but the focus is definitely more on intimacy, communication and trust, than on restraints and whips. The latter is of course present (in great detail!) but used as a way of achieving the former more than anything else. It's the kind of series where the secondary characters in one book are the main ones in another.

Tangent over

Originally Posted by Piper_

still, if some of them are serious about it, they might learn something about the value of trust in a relationship

Trust, and communication. If ever there was a relationship activity where open and honest communication is absolutely vital, it's D/S sex play.

[Piper_]

Originally Posted by ScalyFreak

Personally, I prefer "for mutual pleasure, within both our comfort zones", but that's just me.

Originally Posted by ScalyFreak

It is? I must have been very lucky then.

Tangent here: You might enjoy the Nature of Desire series, by Joey W Hill. I've only read the first three yet, but the focus is definitely more on intimacy, communication and trust, than on restraints and whips. The latter is of course present (in great detail!) but used as a way of achieving the former more than anything else. It's the kind of series where the secondary characters in one book are the main ones in another.

Tangent over

Great tangent, though! The BDSM label is used for so many different types of things, it's difficult to sort through.

For me, only monogamous M/f 24/7 D/s DD works. That seems to be less popular than the others, so I have trouble filtering enough to find them.

Originally Posted by ScalyFreak

Trust, and communication. If ever there was a relationship activity where open and honest communication is absolutely vital, it's D/S sex play.

So very true. Play and 24/7 both require the deepest respect and trust.

Off to check your rec!