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Originally Posted by Nyssa
I am really curious as to the success rate (both people happy, loving/loved) of arranged marriages.
The fact that two people, on their own, unassisted, can be in a relation for years that ends up going nowhere, or be in a relationship for months that ends up happily ever after, makes me wonder how two people with no say in the matter at all can make it work.
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You do need to realize that in today's arranged marriage, either party can refuse. They do meet and spend time together before the marriage. Almost 4 or 5 days...
There is the 'first meeting,' usually a dinner together, then a second. Then there is 'a dinner with the parents.' One for each set. Then the couple will go away for a few days on a 'trial honeymoon.' If all that works, they get married. And while there are divorces in Japan, the numbers are much lower than in the West, where more than 50% of marriages now end in divorce. It's really not so different from 'dating services,' just faster.
Stitchawl