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Originally Posted by ardeegee
Okay, thinking up a realistic example-- say your mate has had a really bad day. Say if you've had a bad day, you would want to have company, so you stay right at said mate's side. But-- it so happens-- how the mate prefers to be treated after a bad day is to be left alone to unwind, and all the time you are attached at mate's hip, mate is thinking "would you please just go the hell away for one freaking minute?"
That is a case of "doing unto others as you would have them do unto you" and you are annoying the heck out of the other by doing it. Better would be to "do unto others as they would have you do unto them."
You can think up any number of possible situations on your own, it isn't "people wanting to be treated negatively", it is other people having different ideas of positive treatment than you.
You need this to hang in your classroom:
http://despair.com/individuality.html |
Considering your mate is a friend, you should know how he would like to be treated, even if it is different from how you would want a friend to help you through a difficult day. As Tom has stated, every rule has it's exceptions but for a jumping off point in dealing with others, the Golden Rule. . .well, RULES!
