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While I applaud Donnageddon in trying to reduce the acrimony, I remain convinced it’s not necessarily the topic that is causing the upheaval, though I will admit some topics tend to turn heated much faster than others.
In the larger scheme of things, you have formed a family of sorts and like all families you’re going through some hard times right now. It’s not surprising because you’re also growing. Suddenly there’s a new son-in-law that doesn’t quite see things as everyone else or there’s a new baby and accommodations have to be made and focus rearranged. This is going to cause conflict whether you are discussing politics, religion or Mark Twain.
You can do your best to remind people to remain civil and even try to curtail the topics discussed, but you can’t always speed through the rough times as fast as you want.
There is, however, always hope. There are enough of you committed toward making this group work that I have faith things will turn around. Personality conflicts will eventually sort themselves out. People learn to accept others, ignore them, or they move on. Over time the family regroups, people accept the change, and happier times return. Eventually, you will get beyond this as well. Things may never be exactly the same as they once were or as certain members recall, but that is pretty much how things work out for all families.
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