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Originally Posted by Sparrow
Most of the posters I would regard as overly contentious apparently see themselves as the victims - and they consider themselves the aggrieved parties in the subsequent fallout of the discussions they participate in.
If they can be that unknowing of the way their posts are perceived; maybe I too am in a state of blissful ignorance, and my posts might also be driving fellow MRers to distraction  .
What is the best way to let people know they may be unwittingly stepping on other folks' toes, without making them feel they're being censored and victimised to an extent other people aren't? |
It's all in the WAY you say it. And without faces and body language and with the international language differences it makes subtlety very difficult.
It is always best to state thing from your own perspective and to restate if needed.
"I feel that you are a bit over the top." or
"It seems like you are saying....is that right?"
Best thing is to not take any of it personally. I know I am no angel in many cases but I working to try and step back from any of those topics I have strong feelings/attachment to and know that people are not always going to agree we me, nor I with them. Nor would I want that. As Pshrynk says I welcome discussions that give me an opportunity to consider other's perspectives and to possibly learn something or god-forbid even change my mind.
