It doesn't sound as if ardeegee has read any romance at all - or erotica/porn for that matter? Else he/she would have known the difference
For those interested in romance, you may be interested in "Beyond Heaving Bosoms" - a fun and intelligent look at romance novels, what they are and why they're read.
http://www.smartbitchestrashybooks.com/index.php/book/