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Originally Posted by nomesque
Y'know, I think I just realised how so many women get into a "Fine. I'll be over here, smouldering with resentment." kinda attitude. What's the effing point of politely listing your objections and issues re: a particular plan if the person you're talking to shows no sign of taking it in, or caring about it if they do?
So, like, FINE.
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You're a writer, so write. List numbered items and request a corresponding numbered response for each item (or put it in a spreadsheet with a column marked "response"). Use an email-trail. Email them later to clarify what their (non-existent) response to your raised issue was. If the person wants to discuss "face-to-face", take a piece of paper containing your items and ask that they address each one, write in their response, and then show it to them so they can confirm what they said, telling them that you'll transcribe it later on and email it to them and file it on the office server for future reference. The spoken word is fallible...plausibly deniable. Force it into the archival form of the written word, and dismissal, filibuster, ambiguity, evasion and verbal intimidation or emotional pressure are removed. People don't like not being able to say "I never said that", and will be more careful addressing issues, and take more care
to address issues.
Saying this, as the IT security systems overseer, manager and enforcer at my previous job, this is how I ended up being "let go" (or "fired" as The Loved One hates me saying) - effectively for being an officious arsehole, despite it being my board-designated role.
I'm not bitter (the sudden urge to punch someone in the neck is, I'm sure, completely unrelated).
Cheers,
Marc