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Originally Posted by nanotube
I agree, on a certain level. No, I don't understand why people want to "have their own kid" while they can do the same through adoption. However, as far as I know, it's EXTREMELY difficult to adopt a child. I dont know how much it costs but adoption is not cheap, it's very expensive. Perhaps people choose fertility treatments because 1) may not qualify the requirements for adoption or 2) the cost between treatments and adoption is pretty much the same, so why not have a kid myself?
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It's extremely difficult to adopt white, healthy, infant children. Adopting non-white children, or children with health problems, or pre-teens, is much easier.
And as much as it's easy to say, "why don't you just adopt," it's not always that simple; people can't just demand that their emotions engage with a baby. Aside from any genetic tendency to love our own offspring (an arguable point), when nurturing a child (fetus, embryo, whatever) through pregnancy, there are several months of buildup & emotional connection that aren't possible with a child who already needs tending.
Not that it's not possible to build deep connections with a child handed to you later--but they are different connections, and some people who would make excellent parents just aren't able to start from that point.