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Originally Posted by kazbates
I knew from a very young age that having children was what I really wanted to do with my life. I spent a lot of time babysitting and I loved it.
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actually, when i was younger i wanted children. i also did a lot of babysitting though and although i liked it at first i think i kept doing it for too long, at an age when i should have been spending time with people at least 15 or 20 years older than the kids i was babysitting. that is probably what started to change my mind. there were many contributing factors though. and as i said, in the right circumstances, i might still decide to have one, but i don't feel any particularly strong desire in an absolute sense.
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I never really had a lot of heavy responsibility while growing up but if I had the kind of pressure then that I have now as a parent, I would need to seriously rethink my decision to have children. It is a HUGE commitment and you do lose a little of yourself in the process. I used to cringe every time someone introduced me as "Shannon's mom" or "Zachary's mom", like I didn't actually have my own identity.  Now, I'm just too tired to worry about it. 
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...kazbates further reinforcing every childfree person's desire to stay that way.
