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Originally Posted by kazbates
I must say that at the beginning, I too felt a bit intimidated by the established members whose names were frequently present in the Lounge and other threads. I had to push myself outside of my comfort zone and start making the comments that I felt were relavent to the discussion. It wasn't easy, but I am so glad that I did. I am thoroughly enjoying my membership in this, my first, forum. The general populace here are friendly and encouraging, even when your views don't always mesh with theirs. It is posters like Zelda, mjh215, Am, DixieGal, and so many others that make this a great place to spend some time. And of course, Alex, for making it all possible!
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well, this may surprise some, but i also was intimidated when i first joined, before i got to know people. i think it's true for *any* group. it's pretty normal to need a bit of time to find your footing, get to know people, learn a bit about the history. on the other hand, i would never have stayed here if i hadn't felt welcomed by the older members, particularly since i'm actually a very shy person.
i know that some say they find it hard to "break into" the group here but i'm still amazed by how overwhelmingly friendly and outgoing the people here are. in fact it's one of my favorite things about this forum. newcomers are greeted with enthusiasm and friendly curiosity. we've got a few members who spend lots of time just saying hello to new members in the introduction forum, and one member in particular who makes it a point of honour to let no introduction go un-noticed. there are many people who are on the lookout for new members just getting to know about ebooks who are always ready to help answer questions and give useful advice. i'm sure there are some posts (in every forum, not specifically the lounge) which might not get a direct reply but they still add to the discussion ; i haven't noticed anyone being "ignored", in fact it seems generally to be quite the opposite that happens here.
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I had a great Principal who once told me to "take 24 hours" before responding to something that upsets or angers you. That way you can respond with thoughtfulness and reason. I try very hard to apply that very wise advise in my daily life (although, when you have kids, it is extremely hard to do sometimes  ).
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this seems like very sound advice.
