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Originally Posted by HarryT
A question for those people who are married:
It's a well-known fact that some people have a high sex-drive, and others don't. If you just weren't interested in sex, but your partner had a strong need for it, would you object to your partner going to see an escort for a purely "physical" experience with no emotional strings attacked?
Speaking as a single person, I can see nothing at all "wrong" with this, personally. It's simply providing a service, like any other service.
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I think this would depend on the situation. Does (s)he do it without the partner knowing about it?
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Originally Posted by Lady Blue
Conversely, would the same be true if you replaced the word physical (or sexual) with emotional? It's also common for one partner to have strong emotional needs while the other does not. If for whatever reason (overwork, stress, illness, etc.) one partner is not providing the emotional needs of the other, would it be objectionable for this partner to go outside the relationship to fulfill their purely emotional needs (even without the sex?)
Just asking . . .
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I'd say yes. Personally, I think emotional needs are the most important part of the
emotional relation between two people. Love is pure emotion. Sex has nothing to do with love. It may be a response, a way to show it, but not the reason for love. You feel an emotional attachment for the other. Once that emotional attachment is gone, I don't see a reason to stay together (unless it's for financial reasons, and I doubt cheating is a problem in that situation...)
For me, the most important part of cheating is the secrecy. You are too cowardly to tell your partner you're no longer faithful. Whatever the reason of you cheating (the sexual need or emotional need), you should always tell your partner what is bothering you. Then, together, as adults, you should come to an understanding (to stay together and solve the underlying problem, or just each go your own way...)