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The confusing thing about "cheating" is the fact that the parameters change from person to person... yet, since few people discuss the matter beforehand, it is often not clear what constitutes cheating until it is too late. (That's not to say all cheaters get to say "I didn't know," but that there can be times when a behavior might be considered cheating by your partner, unbeknownst to you).
Personally, I don't consider simply looking at someone to be "cheating" in any fashion. After all, you're out in public, and if a girl dresses in such a manner that attracts notice, I don't have a problem noticing. But again, your partner might consider even this to be "cheating," or at the least, "insulting to them," so it might be worthwhile to know what your partner considers cheating (and insulting) and avoid getting in trouble.
In older countries and societies, people are from similar cultures, and so the rules are fairly well known by all. In the U.S. and other multi-cultural countries, pressure is often mounted to marry within your church, or your race/nationality, to limit the differences in culture and rules. Otherwise, the rules vary so much that it often pays to have longer courtships/engagements, in order to find out as much as possible about your partner, and their rules, before committing to them. Those who don't do this are rolling the dice, but that's their prerogative.
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