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Originally Posted by Dr. Drib
Every time I go to Miraflores, a tourist city in Peru, I'm approached by prostitutes. Every single time. This is in the "Pizza Alley" area right across from Parque Kennedy. Some women want a good time and offer themselves, even though they are not street-walkers. Money is never discussed, because I don't let it get to that point. I say, "Gracias, no, senorita," and continue walking.
If I look at a woman too long (and if she's a prostitute), she'll often pursue me - sometimes agressively, albeit nicely. I just wave my hand in dismissal, which is a common way to say "no" to anyone selling anything.
This is my second marriage and I know what it is to THINK about lusting in one's heart, but I would never cheat on my wife.
However, I appreciate looking at a beautiful woman. All of this got me to thinking: What exactly IS cheating? When does one cross the line into having cheated? Is appreciating a beautiful woman (or man, if that is one's predilection) a sign of cheating or some kind of prefigurement to cheating?
Is cheating only the act of having sexual intercourse? I remember, during my years as single man, that a friend of mine told me that she didn't believe engaging in oral sex was cheating. I didn't buy that and don't to this day. But now being in a large city of 8-10 million people, (and I'm just a "good 'ole Southern boy' used to small cities where prostitution never seemed to touch me) has got me to thinking about the IDEA of cheating and what it means and how we define that word.
Do we all have feelings of lust in our hearts, to paraphrase President Carter. Is it wrong to have these feelings? Of course, Lust is one of the Seven Deadly Sins, but what if one has no religious convictions or has difficulty counting?
Don
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I remember walking home one evening after work (in San Diego), with my briefcase in my hand and my best suit on ($500 that suit cost me in 1988), when a sailor approached me and asked me how much I charged.
I didn't miss a beat, I told him flat out that it was $200 an hour and that did not include sex.
Cheating is whatever the person cheated upon believes it to be. Doesn't matter how innocent it may seem to the person who cheats; if their partner feels cheated on, and proceeds to treat them as if the cheater has done something wrong, then they've got a problem on their hands.
Myself, I could care less what some man sticks his penis in, as long as he is not also sticking it in me. I like to have a choice in my venereal diseases, thank you very much.