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Originally Posted by Dr. Drib
Yes, and that's exactly what I do.
When I see someone is going to be disagreeable - and it's quite clear in one's writing if that person will be this way - then I won't respond or reply. I think the reason I do this is because I feel it fuels the narcissistic personality. It feeds them, so to speak. They need fuel in which to continue to argue. Remember, I do this when someone is both disagreeable and controlling at the same time.
I once tried to write rationally to someone about a situation, but logic and cohesion were thrown out the door. One can't "argue" with irrationality.
Don
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Yes, it really is a waste of time and energy to try to carry on a rational discussion with someone who just wants to be disagreeable and "win" the argument. And continuing to carry on with such an individual just seems to fan the flame. Many times, the person's position is pretty thin, but they don't see it that way and so they persist with the same thin argument over and over again.
I remember once after not engaging my sister for several months (perhaps a year), I couldn't help myself and responded in a way that fed her flame. I saw a light come on in her eyes, like she was thinking, "Finally, this is what I have been waiting for all this time," as she geared up to pound me into the ground. I didn't make that mistake again.