Thread: Seriousness When Reasonable People Take Positions
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Old 04-11-2009, 05:55 PM   #36
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Originally Posted by Dr. Drib View Post
How does one deal with a narcissistic personality who thinks she/he is always right and, furthermore, uses language in a way that belittles another person?

I think personalities like the above feed off of debate and argumentation. Remember, we're talking about a personality type that systematically demeans another's words.

Take certain novels, for example, where there always needs to be someone in control of a group of people, where part of the novel's development is concerned with the tension of someone always wanting to control other human beings.

I once worked for a narcissistic, controlling personality. He loved being in control. One afternoon, after he left, I rearranged my office. (I was a Publication's Editor for an association.) The next day when I came to work, he had rearranged the room the way it had been the day before.

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My strategy, if at all possible, is to not engage them in debate and argumentation. I turn away and avoid protracted discussions with such people. I grew up with a sister who always had to win every argument. I learned early on that turning away was my best strategy.
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