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YES, by the way, I meant to say, well done! It's about time. Hell, I find that we all do that--it's easy to get lazy, when things go wrong, health-wise. I've had to kick my own ass about exercising, after some brouhaha here. Sheesh.
I've often said, forget all the lectures, classes, teachers, yadda, about male and female "roles." If women really want to raise liberated sons, then teach them to clean the damn toilets. Seriously--teach them to clean up after themselves, scrub a toilet. Their future better halves--women or men--will thank you for it and being the one who cleans a toilet has a way of keeping people from getting airs, no matter WHAT. They don't, as my Grandmother used to say "get above themselves." :-)
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Besides cycling on the stationary bike (almost) every day, he now takes (almost) daily walks. Very short walks still (200-300m), but he's doing it. I'm hoping he'll soon get the letter telling him when to start with the heart rehab program; he'll get group physical therapy once or twice a week, so then he has to improve.
My mother perpetuated his untidy behaviour by cleaning up after him. His desk is next to the dinning room table; his desk chair is between his desk and the table and he has the tendency to dump everything on the table. So there are usually dirty dishes, packaging, mail, food, etc on that table. And I refuse to tidy that up (also, I do not tidy up his desk). He usually takes care of the dishes and food, occasionally he throws away the trash, but other things still accumulate. Until either my mother or my sister are fed up with it and tidy it up.
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Originally Posted by Hitch
Your aunt seriously needs a good kick in the ass. No offense, Rumple.
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None taken, but I'll first let my father try before going at it myself. I know Drama will ensue when I have to, but so be it.
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Wow, I'm a bit gobsmacked. You're going to live on your own? I mean, yes, with your sister (seriously, though, given everything are you SURE that this is a great idea????? Wasn't she
The Night Vacuumer? ), and your parents are going to live on their own? Wowza.
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Yes!
I could have chosen to move with my parents, but it long overdue that I'm on my own and they have to take care of themselves. Without the responsibility of the store that will be easier.
Living in an apartment block with not so great soundproofing my sister has learned to be mindful of others. Also, she has a cleaner (yay!) who does most of the bigger cleaning jobs every two weeks. When it's the two of us it'll be easy to do the weekly cleaning of the 65 square meter apartment together.
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I guess I never thought I'd see it. Obviously, of course, it would happen at some time, but I guess I thought your parents would hang on to the store for another decade, at least. (Crap, everybody but me is retiring!)
Hitch
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My father always said he wanted to keep the store open until he was at least 70, when he now is.
Another factor is that Covid made things more difficult due to supply chain problems and customers' behaviour. Also in 2019 our most important supplier stopped. We can get the items they sold from other suppliers, but there isn't one that has everything. The supplier that stopped delivered twice a week, my father didn't have to order online but email them a list before 7am on those days and it was delivered between 10am and noon. My father is not good at ordering online (he uses to specific search terms), plus the supplier who has most of what the old one had has the worst webshop ever (that's a whole other rant).
Having had some problems of getting around himself he has finally realized that our house isn't practical for my mother. He always had problems putting himself in someone else's shoes. He has no problem with the stairs in our house, so why should my mother, who has trouble walking, have difficulty going up and down the steep and narrow staircases, which steps are also very short (not deep). Having experienced that himself he now realizes an apartment on one floor is much more practical.
It seems that a lot of independent businesses are closing at the moment. The haberdashery across the canal from us closed two months ago. The nearby yarn store is also going to close in the near future, the little British and American food store is closing at the end of June. The owner of the cafe next door, my father's best friend growing up, is also considering closing. Most of them close because of their age, sometimes combined with health issues, and they haven't got someone who wants to take over.
Even in the state the building's in my parents can fetch a tidy sum for it, they can buy a nice apartment from that and live of the remainder of the money and their savings.