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Originally Posted by ApK
It's positive for him too. Don't forget that.
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It is, and it isn't. Because now he's shown he can do certain things, I expect him to do those things on a regular basis. Like putting his dirty dishes in the dishwasher, if he's up before me he can empty the dishwasher, feed the cats or put on dinner or maybe dust once in a while.
He's been raised to think that those are women's tasks. And I didn't mind doing them when I wasn't working full time and he was. But now he's not working and I'm working full time in the store. Since he's capable of doing chores I would love it if he does some. If you ask, repeatedly, he will eventually do something, but it would be nice if he would do things without having to be asked, though I think that is idle hope.
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Originally Posted by ApK
I'm not going to presume to tell you what to do with your aunt or your family relationships, but since your aunt sounds a lot like my sister, I tell you this: When my mom died a few years ago, the one comfort I found was that I would NEVER have to deal with my sister in ANY way, EVER again. Phone and email blocked, and her crazy is no longer my problem. Not my circus, not my monkey. I felt lighter immediately, and was able to stop taking the stomach medicine that I had to take whenever I dealt with her.
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She was never this bad. It started after I got appendicitis and after the inflammation in my back. She told me off for that because I inconvenienced my
parents with that. But since my father has been in hospital she gone crazy. I'm hoping now things have quieted down she will back off a bit. I discussed it with my parents and they will tell to back off with her commentary on me. Not sure if that will help.
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Originally Posted by Hitch
What are you going to do, then, Rumple, when the store is gone? I mean, vocationally?
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I want to keep working in a store. Ideally I would love to work in a craft store, but at the moment those offer only part time jobs (2-3 days a week) and I want to work full time. So I might end up working in my field of specialty; lighting. Maybe a store selling light fixtures or a big box DIY store. Our store's got a good reputation and the light fixture stores and DIY stores in the area often send customer to us when the customer needs something special or has a difficult/technical question. I'm hoping my knowledge will make easier to get a job of those store if I wanted to.