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Originally Posted by Rumpelteazer
He's coming home on Thursday, and from Friday a nurse will visit each morning, but only to put on his compression sock. I'm hoping the rehab center will also require a physical therapist to visit once or twice a week. But I doubt that will happen.
He says he wants to continue with exercises. But I know it's easy for him to find excuses not to do it. Or he wants to do too much, too quickly and gets demotivated when that backfires. Nagging has the opposite effect on him. And at the moment I just don't have the energy to get into fights with him.
In two or three weeks his heart recovery program will start. Which is usually group physical therapy twice a week and group talks to share your experiences with others who went through the same thing. When that program starts he will at least get PT twice a week.
I just found out that the 26th is Ascension Day, which is a bank/public holiday in the Netherlands. My sister and I are going away for our walking weekend from the 20th until the 24th. So the store's closed on the 21st and the 24th. I'm now tempted to also keep the store closed on the 25th, so that I have six days off. But I know my father will never agree to that. He already has problems with closing the store two days, let alone three days.
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Y'know, something I learnt the hard way, from my family members is that you can't force their own responsibilities on them. You can't
make someone get well. You can't
make them do their P/T, or to quit smoking or lose weight, etc. All you can do is
try to be supportive (no matter how irked or irritated you may be for whatever reason) and
hope for the best. Everything else is you trying to maintain the illusion of control and making YOURSELF miserable. Don't let your inner control freak make you miserable, if
you are not the one who is meant to be exercising, quitting smoking, dieting, whatever.
IME, FWIW.
Hitch