I don’t think you are being to harsh, if you have talked to her about it before and if those are things that she did in the past is not a question that she can’t do it, it’s that she doesn’t want to do it, and once you start doing this for her, you can expect to have to do it every time, because then she will point out that last time you did it so you can do it again.
I say stick with it, and don’t let her guilt you, unfortunately sometimes our loved ones take us for granted and expect us to do all, and solve all their problems, forgetting that we also have problems and need to care for ourselves.
Be strong, and good luck.
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Originally Posted by Rumpelteazer
So my mother is upset with me, again.
She got the new iPad Mini when it was released, but she hasn't used it yet. First she used the excuse of that she wanted to wait until she had cataract surgery. After that she used the excuse that she wanted to wait until her Bluetooth earbuds. Now she's blaming me for not being able to use her iPad.
That is because I refuse to update her laptop so she can transfer her music to her iPad.
When she got her current iPad she hadn't touched her laptop for years and it needed to be updated. It's an HP laptop that has loads of HP and third party crapware on it that makes it slow to start and slow in general, with regular annoying pop ups. I did update it for her then, but it took a full Sunday (10am to 5 or 6 pm) to do so. I told her then that this was the last time I would do this and that it was up to her to keep it updated. She never did. Both my father and I reminded her several times but she never did.
She's now using her poor health of the past year of the past year as an excuse. If it was just the updates for the past year I would have done it, probably. We tried suggesting her to get a Spotify subscription, because she got a bunch of bootlegs that aren't available on Spotify.
I also think she wants someone else to set up the iPad for her. But I won't. She set up her current and previous iPads, her iPods and iPhones, so she can do this herself. She's also got the time for it, since her only chores are feeding the cats in the morning and folding laundry once a week.
Am I too harsh. Maybe. But she's finding it very nice that everything gets done for her. We're trying to get her to do more things she can do. After this past year, with both my parents having health issues I'm near a burn-out and with the help of a psychologist I'm trying to reclaim myself a little bit at the moment. I'm picking my battles, and this is an important one for me.
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