I can do without any of it, myself.
I personally can't find a use case for being able to quickly see the closing tag of the opening tag I clicked on. And block collapse drives me bonkers. I keep thinking I deleted something whenever I invariably collapse a section accidentally. It's like the light in the frig: I have to keep checking to reassure myself that the hidden code is actually still there!
But highlighting the closing tag seems innocent enough. People other than myself are clearly comforted by it somehow--else it wouldn't be so prevalent in editors. There'll be no opposition from me.
Personally, I feel that if you can't easily see the closing tag without special highlighting, then the markup you're editing is a mess. In those cases, I use a parsing tool to clean it up so I don't have to worry about manually deleting the wrong tag in a ridiculously convoluted span/div rat's nest.